This has already been widely discussed. Turning down invitations can cause upset and bad feeling. We have all made the point that we go to great lengths to make out that we are having a great time at weddings. We are, however, allowed to let off steam about them anonymously, which is what we're doing, before putting on a big smile for the next wedding we have to attend.
Who enjoys weddings?
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This has already been widely discussed. Turning down invitations can cause upset and bad feeling. We have all made the point that we go to great lengths to make out that we are having a great time at weddings. We are, however, allowed to let off steam about them anonymously, which is what we're doing, before putting on a big smile for the next wedding we have to attend.
Maybe you should? answers to 1 & 2 will be found there!
As discussed previously it's not about having 'bottle' maybe it takes more 'bottle' to go then to not go!
Without exception everybody who has admitted to hating weddings but who go anyway have stated that they throw themselves into it for the day and make the best of it
I sent back the little card which had a tick the box option.
Hadn't heard of this! Handy I suppose.
Can you also 'untick' a box to ensure that you receive no further correspondence or offers and are removed from their mailing list?
I'm not looking for answers. I'm expressing an opinion.
Hardly. It's hard to refuse an invitation just because you don't don't like weddings but if you're consistent you're at least deserving of respect. if the B & G can't accept that, that's just too bad.
It hasn't been my experience. At a lot of weddings I attended, I've met people who've made it plain that they weren't there out of choice and some have behaved like spolied children. Everyone would be better off if they'd just stayed away.
Bottom line, IMHO, is that if you really don't enjoy weddings (to the point of it affecting your mood), don't go.
Hardly. It's hard to refuse an invitation just because you don't don't like weddings but if you're consistent you're at least deserving of respect. if the B & G can't accept that, that's just too bad.
I don't agree with this. We all have to accept invitations at times to things we don't want to go to out of (a) politeness (b) family considerations (c) a desire not to hurt the feelings of people we care about, whether its to weddings, 21sts, anniversary parties,whatever.
It hasn't been my experience. At a lot of weddings I attended, I've met people who've made it plain that they weren't there out of choice and some have behaved like spolied children. Everyone would be better off if they'd just stayed away.
Well, I've never seen that kind of behaviour at any wedding I've been at. I have, however, seen lots of people giving oscar winning performances of having a brilliant time when I know some of them would much rather be at home watching telly.
I don't agree with this. We all have to accept invitations at times to things we don't want to go to out of (a) politeness (b) family considerations (c) a desire not to hurt the feelings of people we care about, whether its to weddings, 21sts, anniversary parties,whatever.
It hasn't been my experience. At a lot of weddings I attended, I've met people who've made it plain that they weren't there out of choice and some have behaved like spolied children. Everyone would be better off if they'd just stayed away.
Well, I've never seen that kind of behaviour at any wedding I've been at. I have, however, seen lots of people giving oscar winning performances of having a brilliant time when I know some of them would much rather be at home watching telly.
Again, rubbish! I don't like funerals either should I not bother turning up to family funerals?? - I wonder how it would go down in the family if I flat out refused to go to my brother's wedding just cause! - be realistic it ain't going to happen and I certainly wouldn't get any respect because of it!
Agreed, I have never seen anyone acting miserable at any wedding I have ever been to and from the majority of replies on this thread nobody would behave like that at a wedding, they would suck it up and act!
I think Miss Ribena said it best when she called it "a cynical day of role-playing by pretty much everyone present"
People have their own motovations for attending any event. One can WANT to go to a funeral, wedding etc out of respect to the bereaved, the B&G, etc. But if anyone goes to any event simply because they haven't the neck to stay away, they have no reason to complain during or after the event.
In my experience, there have been guests who made it plain that they were there reluctantly - My experience, perhaps not yours.
Eh, I think that's the point we've been trying to make. 'Not wanting' to turn down an invitation out of respect, politeness etc is the same as 'wanting to go out of respect, politeness....' I think you're really just splitting hairs here.
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