Wife’s Contribution to the Mortgage, Bills etc. while seeking a Divorce

[bkenn14]

Clubman
Are solicitors no longer required by Law to discuss the possibility of mediation as a means of reaching a solution
or is this requirement only apply to seperation cases and not in divorce settlements,

The Google 1% Mediation in Divorce settlements is very low I wonder if the data is picking up the fact that the pension element of any settlement can not be agreed by mediation has to be agreed by both legal teams is this what is bringing down the % agree by Mediation when in the real world most of the settlement was already agreed trough Mediation,

I though the solicitor should provide you with a list of names and addresses of individuals and organisations that are qualified to help people reach mediated agreement,

A solicitor is legally required to file a document with the courts stating that they have advised there client appropriately if they choose to take the legal route, no or only required in separation cases,

That is not to say a Good solicitor will advice there client to be slow to agree Mediation as a means of shacking down a less informed partner who may finish up bearing most of the legal cost as a means of reaching a more favourable settlement for there client,

 

[Clamball]

I think your spouse has made it very clear she wants a divorce so you need to do the following things

Decide what you want in the future as a parent. Do you want to have your children live with you and take a full 50% parenting responsibility? If so your needs will be housing for you and your spouse that is suitable for your children to live in. This may be the costliest part of the divorce so give it plenty of thought.
Keep a record of all your current expenditure with receipts so that you can show how much of your income you are investing in the family.
Start saving for the divorce, assume €10k minimum.
Hire a solicitor and get advice.
Get counselling for yourself. You need to let a lot of the negativity towards your wife go.
Each party will come out of the divorce poorer and in a poorer financial position, so you need to be realistic on what you will need your money for in the future.
Continue to be a parent to your children now while this is all playing out. Do you screen the second level students from the turmoil enough?

 

[bkenn14]

Decide what you want in the future as a parent. Do you want to have your children live with you and take a full 50% parenting responsibility? If so your needs will be housing for you and your spouse that is suitable for your children to live in. This may be the costliest part of the divorce so give it plenty of thought.

By costliest part do you mean extra legal cost to be incurred by Cruzer123 I don't think that is what you mean but i could be wrong
taking a position of wanting 50/50 parenting can also lead to a fairer split of assets and a lot fairer outcome/ agreement leaving both parents children on option to live with whichever parent the so wish to in the future,

No partner should think it is ok for the other partner to get locked into becoming a mum or dad for a few hrs each week, looking for 50/50 parenting can often lead to a partner who is reluctant to engage in Mediation to see the value of getting involved in mediation to reach a fairer settlement for all concerned,