Would someone like to analyse this in financial terms?
How much does IVF actually cost?
How much does rearing a child actually cost?
I fully appreciate that it might be more difficult to come up with the €15k (?) for a round of IVF than to pay €10k(?) a year to raise a child.
But is it not much more expensive to have a child than to have IVF?
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/11360819/Average-cost-of-raising-a-child-in-UK-230000.html
According to this article, the average cost of raising a child in the UK until the age of 21 is roughly £230,000 - so lets say 250,000 euro. Over the 21 years, this works out at say 12k a year. The government contributes 1700 roughly a year towards that in children's allowance.
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According to the NICE site above,
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It is highly likely those 3 cycles would be done within a 6 month period, probably in sequence depending on the initial assessment and earlier results.
https://merrionfertility.ie/patient-information/how-much-does-fertility-treatment-and-ivf-cost/
I am not familiar enough with IVF to understand what is involved in a single cycle, but there is nothing cheap on that list. And they are a not for profit organisation. Based on a number of people I know who went down the route, there would be little change (if any) out of 40k for 3 cycles.
So yes, rearing a child costs more over the life of the child than IVF. However, IVF is a very high upfront cost, and normally when couples are starting out and are saving for or have just purchased a house. There is also only a 45-53% success rate after that cost. This also does not include the emotional cost and strain on the family, relationship, potentially work etc.
What I personally found is that once I had my children, our lifestyle adjusted accordingly. The nice meals went out the door, the adventurous holidays disappeared, and a reliable family car became the priority. We just spent differently, and probably saved less than we would have if they had not arrived.
Am I financially poorer as a result - most definitely; but I do try and tell myself I am emotionally richer ;-)