Is it a burden though? I’ve never seen it as a burden. I agree that those mothers can and frequently are disadvantaged from a work and career perspective but if they are then they share in their husbands/partners income. If they are divorced then the law supports them and rebalances things. I’m genuinely asking, I really don’t get the narrative that the parent who has the privilege of spending more time with their children should be financially compensated for having that privilege.
If two people of the same ability work in the same job and have the same productivity levels is it not reasonable that the person who works longer should get paid more?
I see you have strong views on these points
@Purple from your earlier posts. At the risk of arguing semantics...
Raising my kids has not been a burden in a negative sense, but it has led to is an opportunity cost far larger than I was aware it would be and that did not have to be as insurmountable as it has become. The fact is, the Home Duties spouse takes on far more than raising the kids. The division of household and emotional labour is unequal. Numerous studies support this.
Yes, in the simplest terms, my husband gets to focus on his job because of my work and we both share his income. But, damn, I wish we could BOTH work and BOTH share raising the kids equally and, although that was our pre-kid intention, it has proven impossible to implement.
I personally put a value on my time by working out what insurance would need to cover the expenses accrued if I fell ill/died because my husband could not have kept his job and done everything when the kids were little. (Some people can do work full time and raise kids - it would seem you're one of them. Most people are not so able or lack family supports.) Frankly, the cost of replacing me was more than my husband earns. This labour is a social contribution even if not otherwise valued financially - I think we can all agree on that.
Re your second point on same job / productivity levels / longer hours. The reality is that productivity is not measured. Were that the case, your point would hold. But if you read Claudia Goldin's papers, it is apparent that HOURS are measured. Even when women with the same skillset and job/role work longer hours (after returning to work), they do not close the gender pay gap. This builds on previous empirical studies over the last 20 years on the "Paternity Premium" and "Male Marriage Wage Premium".