We can't hold a commemoration for the former police force of this Island. Now it's being held in London. The Shinners won't attend a commemoration for two Gardaí murdered by the IRA. It speaks volumes about the gulf between our supposed aspiration to have a united Ireland and the reality of what would be involved.
Mick Clifford has a good take on it here.
it is slowly starting to change, not uncommon now to see commemerations and memorials to those who died in the First World War. Midleton is a case in point, it has a mass grave to 13 IRA men killed in Clonmult and elsewhere in the War of Independence, a few hundred yards away in the main town park is a memorial to locals who fought and died in WW1.
I've the same level of "schizophrenia" in my family. My granduncle headed off in 1916 for the aborted rising in Cork, 2 years later he walked his younger sister down the aisle in Cobh when she married a Chief Petty Officer from Windsor. Another sister emigrated and married a Captain who subsequently served with the Chindits in Burma. In my house growing up, we had a styleised picture of the GPO on one wall whilst in a tin box sat some old IRA medals and some trench art that some other family member brought back in 1917.
I've heard IRA bombs go off, Canary Wharf being one of them when I lived in England where for the most part I was openly welcomed and I love London and it's people as a result. And yet, when it comes to commemerating the RIC, I can't help but think of the family story of the Tans and RIC men who raided the family farm (twice) and threatened to shoot my Granny if she didn't show them where the guns were (she didn't, they were in the hayshed, or so our story goes)
It's not straightforward and black and white.