Wedding cakes - how much did yours cost

We only got married 2 months ago and the cake was something we put a lot of thought in it. It was not a traditional cake: it was a tower of 200 macarons (vanilla white chocolate, dark chocolate and praline fillings) which had different shades of green. We had a more traditional chocolate biscuit cake as a base but again, icing in different shades of green. This required a lot of work from the cake maker as macaron are quite delicate and once colours are added in, it becomes even more difficult! Was not cheap...
 
The mammy made mine - was really just a nice Christmas cake - she had it professionally decorated and got a caketopper etc - all in all bout €50 yo yos I'd say and it went down very well indeed!
 
I think this thread will go along the lines of the 'what size is your Tv'. People falling over themselves to show who is the least materialistic, oh how times have changed.
 
MrMan said:
I think this thread will go along the lines of the 'what size is your Tv'. People falling over themselves to show who is the least materialistic, oh how times have changed.
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Id love to be able to be materialistic!

Even with means though, I still wouldnt have done my own wedding any other way. I dont enjoy traditional weddings, too samey, tedious, too much emphasis on drinking, long boring parts in the middle of the day where you get hungry, etc.. I have been to many a wedding and none of them seemed to be 'special' and Id be hard pressed to remember one from another. So I wouldnt deem a traditional wedding to be worth spending a lot of money on, even if I had money to burn.
 
truthseeker said:
Id love to be able to be materialistic!

Even with means though, I still wouldnt have done my own wedding any other way. I dont enjoy traditional weddings, too samey, tedious, too much emphasis on drinking, long boring parts in the middle of the day where you get hungry, etc.. I have been to many a wedding and none of them seemed to be 'special' and Id be hard pressed to remember one from another. So I wouldnt deem a traditional wedding to be worth spending a lot of money on, even if I had money to burn.
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I hope many people dont waste their money inviting you to share their special day with them as you seem to find it all so boring, waste of money etc
 
TRS30 said:
I hope many people dont waste their money inviting you to share their special day with them as you seem to find it all so boring, waste of money etc
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Plenty of people dont enjoy weddings. Its not something I feel the need to defend.
 
TRS30 said:
Simple answer: don't go.
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Thats pretty immature. We all do things we'd rather not do in life because we care about other people and dont wish to hurt their feelings. I am not a selfish individual so I go, I dress up, I eat the dinner, I dance, I socialise, I give a gift, etc... But I dont particularly enjoy weddings. Its hardly a crime.
 
truthseeker said:
Thats pretty immature. We all do things we'd rather not do in life because we care about other people and dont wish to hurt their feelings. I am not a selfish individual so I go, I dress up, I eat the dinner, I dance, I socialise, I give a gift, etc... But I dont particularly enjoy weddings. Its hardly a crime.
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You eloped so didnt get family and friend the opportunity to celebrate with you. Some would call that selfish.

Most people invite people to their wedding so they can celebrate and be part of their day, if they knew it was such a chore for you i'm sure they would rather you not be there.
 
TRS30 said:
You eloped so didnt get family and friend the opportunity to celebrate with you. Some would call that selfish.
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Marriage vows are a private matter imo. We had a party when we came home but it was just an evening event as Im aware that a long day is tedious for many people.

TRS30 said:
Most people invite people to their wedding so they can celebrate and be part of their day, if they knew it was such a chore for you i'm sure they would rather you not be there.
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I think you will find that many people do not enjoy weddings. Dont fool yourself as to the reasons why people invite lots of people to their wedding. If it was about celebrating a special day with people they loved most weddings would have a much smaller number of guests.
 
truthseeker said:
Marriage vows are a private matter imo. We had a party when we came home but it was just an evening event as Im aware that a long day is tedious for many people.



I think you will find that many people do not enjoy weddings. Dont fool yourself as to the reasons why people invite lots of people to their wedding. If it was about celebrating a special day with people they loved most weddings would have a much smaller number of guests.
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I would say personal rather than private. If you want to have 2 people or 200 people there it's up to you, one or the other isn't right or wrong. Lot of people love weddings and dont mind the 'long' day.

Why would I be fooling myself?

I can't speak for other people however I will have spoken to or seen, in the last couple of months, everyone who will be at my wedding.
 
TRS30 said:
Why would I be fooling myself?

I can't speak for other people however I will have spoken to or seen, in the last couple of months, everyone who will be at my wedding.
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Thats great, Im delighted for you. But its not everyones cup of tea.
 
TRS30 said:
No need to be patronising.

If people don’t want to come that’s no problem. It’s an invite not a summons.
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I apologise, I did not intend to be patronising. I hope you have a lovely time and enjoy your day, no patronising, just good wishes.
 
After spending the €50 or €500 (whatever) on it, does anyone even eat wedding cake? Any wedding ive been at I havent even seen the cake.....
 
truthseeker said:
Id love to be able to be materialistic!

Even with means though, I still wouldnt have done my own wedding any other way. I dont enjoy traditional weddings, too samey, tedious, too much emphasis on drinking, long boring parts in the middle of the day where you get hungry, etc.. I have been to many a wedding and none of them seemed to be 'special' and Id be hard pressed to remember one from another. So I wouldnt deem a traditional wedding to be worth spending a lot of money on, even if I had money to burn.
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I kind of agree with Truthseeker. I have been to many weddings and they are often quite the same. It however depends what the couple wants! Some people want a traditional wedding while some try to put on a show. Some spend a lot of money and some, again don't. It is about doing what YOU want and what you can afford. The only thing that I would feel quite strongly about, is that starting married life with debts is not a good idea. Borrowing money did not even cross our minds. For us, it was about making the day as personal as we could, keep our 95 guests happy and not recreate everything I hate about weddings such as going hungry, having drunk guests, too much time between ceremony and meal etc... I would not change a thing, not even the cake! It is such an important day (very emotional and happy)in one's life and i don't think anybody should have to defend their choices.
 
truthseeker said:
Plenty of people dont enjoy weddings. Its not something I feel the need to defend.
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Yeah I think the majority of people would prefer a letter from the Revenue than a wedding invite.
In the end all your wedding memories are just a blur. You never really remember which one had the nice church, ceremony (shorter the better), flowers, hotel, weather, food, wine, cake, craic, dress, band, cocktail sausages, egg salad sandwiches, residents bar etc with the odd exception
 
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