Well found another 320D in the UK - €2k cheaper - doesn't have the Business Navigation but has lots of other extras. It will be 6 months old on the 8th of July (heading over on the 9th) and has 6k miles on the clock so covers both VAT angles. So again thanks hhhhhh, you just save me around 8k.
David Prentice wouldn't give me back my 500 deposit but they did turn it into a credit note. So I guess I'll be going up north to get it serviced next year, or I'll get a few additions like a 6 stack or something, not ideal but better then nothing.