Just want to tell everyone who took the time to give us advice, we finally got our dog!
It's been a real education, and a surprising one. After many months of soul searching and pound tramping we finally booked a wee girl today. After all our talk about pugs and bichons, all dogs with relatively low exercise needs, we borrowed our friend's young lab a few times while they went on holiday and discovered we absolutely loved his high energy, talking him out walking, running, throwing balls etc. It was one of our favourite things about him! Very little you read about dog ownership says anything about how a dog that NEEDS exercise is like having a really sweet excited personal fitness coach in the house!
Borrowing our friend's dog I couldn't recommend it enough to anyone thinking of getting a dog.
We were worried our son who is slightly asthmatic son would be allergic, turned out he improved! Meant there was no need to consider the less shedding dogs.
My husband, who never had a dog, discovered he really loved dogs, big surprise to him, though not to anyone who knows him.
The dog was delightfully confident and playful. He was also extremely hard to walk, very strong and pulling constantly, and generally a brat about the house. We could only motivate him with food. I prefer a dog with a bigger eager to please streak, having grown up with collies my expectation of dog responsiveness and eager to please-ness is very high!
We nearly gave up on the pound route. The dogs availalbe were very often unsuitable for young families. There were staffies but I'd have zero confidence with the breed. We decided to try a lurcher, took a beautiful young girl for a walk and she had less than no interest in who was holding the lead. Felt like we'd be adopting a high maintenance cat.
Filled out long forms and got our landlord to sign and scan a pdf (he's very nice!) of a letter saying we could keep a dog. Only to get told me could not adopt a dog, but we could foster puppies?!? Like I'm going to put my kids through bonding with a puppy just to hand it back. (dogs in distress)
Other places just won't give dogs to people who are renting.
Only puppies we did see were psychologically damaged, or the only one left in the litter was the one who wouldn't make eye contact.
Finally decided to head for the hills! Rang lovely people in Cavan SPCA (Tina) and Carrick Dog Shelter who take dogs from Monaghan dog pound. Didn't get as far as Tina as we got a 12 week old collie (!!!!) puppy from Carrick Dog Shelter. She is calm and confident and rolling over for tummy rubs, a really sweet dog. We know she's a big commitment but we're confident we can keep her occupied and happy. We'll be doing dog training classes with her straight away.
This is her
http://www.donedeal.ie/for-sale/dogs/3936322
Although her name is offically Sasha it doesn't mean much to her (she's not in the shelter very long) so we can change it without too much stress on her. All suggestions welcome!
We've ended up with the polar opposite of a pug and we're very excited about it!