.. and he thinks I am being unreasonable asking him to come home by 7 while we go out shopping as he doesn't have a key to get in and I am not prepared to leave one out "hidden" for him....
Ahh..the gold old days!
Seriosuly though, from your post it sounds like he's a nice lad and will turn out fine. Just going through that stage in his life. Unless you think he's veering into too much partying (alcohol, drugs etc) I'd probably go a bit easy. He'll have the LC to look forward to so is probably going mad whilst he can. As a parent though you could do worse than take him to a college/university and let him get a feel for what he should aim for.
caveat said:I suppose what I'm saying is that your son probably doesn't appreciate the support and assistance you give but also, he probably feels he isn't getting that much freedom either.
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.. and he thinks I am being unreasonable asking him to come home by 7 while we go out shopping as he doesn't have a key to get in and I am not prepared to leave one out "hidden" for him....
To be honest, I would regard the above as a big deal really.
Welcome to the club - 23 now and still no better than your 17 year old but then that's the male of the species for ya
I hear what you are saying..
You say.."well I just think it's realistic, he is going to be exposed to it and will inevitably try it ".But would you say the same about drugs/sex etc...
Parents have a more relaxed attitude to drinking and yet the trouble some kids get into because of it ,is heartbreaking.
We control what they watch on TV, we wouldn't let them have porn mags or smoke a spliff,yet seem to think its OK to let them drink,I don't know if its the right or wrong thing to do,I can only relay my own experience .
"I think if a parent succeeds in getting their children to "police " themselves,they are very lucky.
Perhaps its just me,but having had four kids, I brought them up with a sense of how drink affects people, how and when your body can cope with alcohol,showing them the state of some kids who attend the local disco, vomiting, being taken advantage of,carted off to hospital to be pumped out etc.and the trouble some of them get into.( and thats just me)
I agree with you that the minute someone turns 18,doesnt mean they are going to be a rock of sense..but at that stage at the very least ,they are considered to be adults and they make their decisions and suffer the consequences.
My own kids have told me about friends who get " out of their heads" on drink.
I don't know the answer but in my circle the parents of those kids who were allowed to drink at an early age, are without doubt the ones who are having trouble.I understand that may not be the case for you,and that the other things he does is part of growing up,I focussed on you allowing him to drink for no other reason than to point out,that he may feel if he is allowed to drink he should be allowed do so much more.
Interesting to hear what others views are on their kids drinking though..
+1“i see no hope for the future of our people if they are dependent on the frivolous youth of today, for certainly all youth are reckless beyond words. When i was a boy, we were taught to be discrete and respectful of elders, but the present youth are exceedingly wise and impatient of restraint.”
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