I've being voting since 1982 and I still don't know what I should about PR. And I think I know more than many.
I've since decided, for the first time in many years, to not vote down the ballot. Rather than give my least favoured candidate (and there's quite a selection) my #18, I've decided to go to #5 through #1.
[EDIT]
I have a copy of one of the excellent spreadsheets Gavan Reilly (Today FM) maintains on Count Day. This one is for Dublin Bay North in 2016.
Quota was 12271. Richard Bruton topped the poll with 9792 first preferences and was elected after the elimination of his running mate, Naoise O’Muiri. All votes (3381) for O’Muiri were eligible for redistribution. This pushed Bruton 821 over quota, which were then redistributed. Just the 821, not the full 13092.
This supports my earlier assertion, that it's just the excess that's up for redistribution. And the composition of that excess is 'random'.