Hi,
I’ve decided that it time to call it time on a 20 year abusive marriage. We are incompatible and despite my repeated attempts there has been no affection for over 5 years.
The only thing we share in common is our 4 children. The youngest is 15, twins at 18 and a 22 year old son.
We have a complex situation of rental properties with mortgages and a sizeable mortgage on the family home. There’s enough equity to afford 2 x 500k homes but she will want to stay in the family home and put me in a dog box.
We’ve been sleeping separately since 2020 and keep seperate bank accounts, her decision.
I think this is grounds to prove we have been separated.
My wife wants to hold off until the youngest is 18.
She secretly took legal advice 5 years ago and I feel her plan all along has been to string me along and seek a divorce when she wants, giving her more access to my pension, savings etc.
She earns a third of what I earn, it’s blatantly obvious I’m merely ticket to enable her lifestyle and keep up appearances.
If I get out now it will give me another 20 years of earnings and pension contributions she won’t have a lien on. Obviously I’m saddened by the impact this will have on our children but I can’t live like this anymore.
What’s the first step here, what’s the process and time to get a separation, can anyone suggest (PM me) a good solicitor in central Dublin?
Thanks……
I’ve decided that it time to call it time on a 20 year abusive marriage. We are incompatible and despite my repeated attempts there has been no affection for over 5 years.
The only thing we share in common is our 4 children. The youngest is 15, twins at 18 and a 22 year old son.
We have a complex situation of rental properties with mortgages and a sizeable mortgage on the family home. There’s enough equity to afford 2 x 500k homes but she will want to stay in the family home and put me in a dog box.
We’ve been sleeping separately since 2020 and keep seperate bank accounts, her decision.
I think this is grounds to prove we have been separated.
My wife wants to hold off until the youngest is 18.
She secretly took legal advice 5 years ago and I feel her plan all along has been to string me along and seek a divorce when she wants, giving her more access to my pension, savings etc.
She earns a third of what I earn, it’s blatantly obvious I’m merely ticket to enable her lifestyle and keep up appearances.
If I get out now it will give me another 20 years of earnings and pension contributions she won’t have a lien on. Obviously I’m saddened by the impact this will have on our children but I can’t live like this anymore.
What’s the first step here, what’s the process and time to get a separation, can anyone suggest (PM me) a good solicitor in central Dublin?
Thanks……
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