ronan_d_john said:
So you're telling me that if the restaurant staff consistently get no tips for their service because the barman downstairs keeps messing it up for them, that nothing would change.
At some point in time, the barman would either be taken aside by the restaurant staff, or by management if they were complained to by the restaurant staff, and he'd be in no uncertain terms that what he was doing was impacting on peoples incomes upstairs.
Maybe the waiting staff would take the barman aside, but you don't know that. If he was abusive towards customers, what would his attitude have been towards the waiting staff? And would the manager care? You paid the bill, and didn't complain to the manager at the time. Wrt to future business, I'm betting you were tourists, and unlikely to return anyway, so no skin off the manager's/owner's nose (this is precisely why my old boss didn't give two hoots about the complaint about the price of the coffee above). You could of course name and shame the place, but to be honest, just because I heard that a barman was abusive to certain customers, I don't know it that would stop me eating in a place. If it happened to me, I would take it up with him directly, or his manager, or the Guards if need be. I wouldn't hold it against the waiting staff.
ronan_d_john said:
You can be sure that if it's impacting on peoples earning power, something will be said or done about it internally, and overall then the experience would improve for the customer.
You can't really be sure of anything.
ronan_d_john said:
And I disagree with you that you can split out different aspects of an experience when you go out. I don't go to a restaurant just to get good service - I can get that at home.
I go out for the food, the surrroundings AND the service. And if I receive all 3, I'm happy, and I'll tip accordingly on the basis of the service I receive. If I don't, I'll withhold the tip, and explain precisely why I'm doing so.
We'll have to agree to disagree then. I've had great food and good service in places that are complete dives. I've had average food and crap service in places that were wonderfully decorated. I tip based on the service, not anything else. If there's a problem with the food, I complain and ask that it be taken back or the cost deducted from my bill. If I have a problem with the surroundings, well I won't sit down in the first place, or I'll not return, or I'll carry on regardless. If there is anything else bothering me, I'll take it up with the manager or the owner.
ronan_d_john said:
Lets also be perfectly clear on this (and hopefully you won't despise me any more), I will withhold a tip on the basis of service, and service alone. If I don't like paying 1.50 for a coffee, I won't have gone into the place. But if I do go in, and pay 1.50 for a coffee, I'll expect service commensurate for buying coffee at that price - i.e. a far better service than if I went somewhere and paid 0.75 for coffee. And if I get that expected service, I'll tip. No problems there.
Let's also be clear that I said I despise people
like you, I've never met you, and you never stiffed me on a tip, so I don't really have any cause to despise you. So your hopes have been answered.
Let's stick to the coffee example. How would you define service commensurate with a £1.50 (€1.90) cup of coffee vs. a €1 cup of coffee? If I get the cup to the table, bring milk and sugar and cream and one of those little biscuits or a mint, and then ask you 'will there be anything else sir'?, would that be commensurate with a €1.90 cup of coffee? But say you got a €1 cup of coffee, would it be ok if I fired the cup on the table, spilling half of it, and when you asked for milk, told you 'in a minute'? Would that be commensurate with a lower priced cup of coffee.
When I waited tables, every customer got pretty much the same treatment as if they'd ordered the €1.50 cup of coffee from me. Sometimes if I was tired, I mightn't have been as chatty, and sometimes when I had energy I would be very witty and charming etc. And sometimes customers got more service than others becuase they asked for it, or required it. Regardless of what the price of the meal was, or what the barman was like, I tried to give my best every time. I earned pretty good tips wherever I went. No-one ever came to me (other than that asshole I described above) and said 'the service was great, but we're not leaving you a tip because we don't like the colour of the carpet, and that spolied our experience'
I expect good service
wherever I go. I tip accordingly.
To be honest, holding service staff accountable for something that is beyone their fault is a bit like having a go at the girl/guy behind the counter in Spar because a 2 pack of toilet roll is €0.99/€1.99/€2.99 whatever. It's not their fault.