No - it's business. Mortgage-lenders are not charitable organisations in it for the pleasure of providing people (families or others) with 'homes'; they are selling a service. It is irresponsible to engage in this market if you can't afford it. That's the bottom line.
The woman I referred to who years after their breakup was traced by her ex-partners mortgage company for an outstanding debt (because her name had been on the original joint mortgage application) was a patient referred to me after a suicide attempt. In my view she was not lying to me as in the context of our professional relationship such a lie would be inappropriate and unhelpful to her. Neither I my friend or family have ever had direct experience of being pursued by debt-collection agencies but I understand from investigative journalism, t.v. documentaries and the accounts of people I come into contact with in the course of my work that repossession/eviction is a reality.
In fact - going back to the 'this is not compassionate' point........one of my psychiatric nurse colleagues bought her lovely house at a knock-down price after it was repossessed and auctioned.
My comments were in response to the attitude that financial commitment of this magnitude was not a serious undertaking with potentially serious repercussions.
The woman I referred to who years after their breakup was traced by her ex-partners mortgage company for an outstanding debt (because her name had been on the original joint mortgage application) was a patient referred to me after a suicide attempt. In my view she was not lying to me as in the context of our professional relationship such a lie would be inappropriate and unhelpful to her. Neither I my friend or family have ever had direct experience of being pursued by debt-collection agencies but I understand from investigative journalism, t.v. documentaries and the accounts of people I come into contact with in the course of my work that repossession/eviction is a reality.
In fact - going back to the 'this is not compassionate' point........one of my psychiatric nurse colleagues bought her lovely house at a knock-down price after it was repossessed and auctioned.
My comments were in response to the attitude that financial commitment of this magnitude was not a serious undertaking with potentially serious repercussions.