Purple, War and Peace in NI has for the last 50 years at least been at the behest of extreme republicans. Loyalist violence was a reaction. British security policy was a reaction. The hunger strikes propelled the IRA onto the electoral radar. It was not improving conditions for Catholics in the 80s and 90s that coaxed them to end the war it was that the ballot box started to look more attractive to them personally than the bullet.
I have no first hand experience of dealing with the IRA or their splinter groups(just more criminal gangs) or living in Northern Ireland while they murdered and intimidated people of all persuasions so I'll bow to your opinions on that.
I do find the West-Brit preening and lick-spittle fawning by many of our leaders sickening. I have nothing against the UK; I visit there for work and holidays regularly and think it's a great country but I'm Irish. I am proud that I live in a republic and I don't want to forget or ignore our history or see it morphed into a revisionist view where we are really part of the greater British family, wayward children seeking to reconcile with our parents.