I'm married and I'm probably one of those people who give you a funny look when you both take out your wallets!! I only married late in life, and yet found it completely natural for us to pool everything together. We don't look on money as his or mine .... we just spend it when necessary and leave it there when we don't need it. As it happens I earn a lot more than himself at the moment. If we looked at it strictly from a numbers aspect, he doesn't actually pay his way. But we just look on it as a joint enterprise, and it pays its way and it works for us. My salary goes straight into the bank monthly, and pays bills etc. His cash comes in weekly and pays for shopping, petrol and cash spending (meal out etc). If we go on holidays then I write the cheques. All my friends think I'm mad!! They think I should be keeping some secret stash somewhere! ("running away money" they call it!). I suppose you can laugh at it (and I do), but on a more serious note I feel that keeping separate monies (or even secret stashes) insinuates a mistrust of the other, and that's not a great start in a marriage. On the other hand, your way might be best, as my way certainly means that I'm spending a lot more than I used to (and he isn't)!!! Whatever turns you on, I suppose. Does anybody else out there have the same set up as me/us?