Irish attitudes to massage (& in particular an obsession with sex)

[Flax]

I went for a massage a few weeks ago. The following day I work I told one of the lads about it. He seemed a bit surprised I did that.

Him: "Are you going to tell your girlfriend?"
Me: "She knows I got a massage"
Him: "She wasn't upset?!"
Me: "??"

He considered what I did to be the same as cheating.

The think the problem is that a lot of people in Ireland have serious issues when it comes to sex. For example, I did some web design work for an adult website. A few people couldn't grasp that adult website and paedophilia are not related. They were suspicous of me from then on. Sad.

 

[truthseeker]

I went for a massage a few weeks ago. The following day I work I told one of the lads about it. He seemed a bit surprised I did that.

Him: "Are you going to tell your girlfriend?"
Me: "She knows I got a massage"
Him: "She wasn't upset?!"
Me: "??"

He considered what I did to be the same as cheating.

The think the problem is that a lot of people in Ireland have serious issues when it comes to sex. For example, I did some web design work for an adult website. A few people couldn't grasp that adult website and paedophilia are not related. They were suspicous of me from then on. Sad.

Flax Ive experienced the same re massage = cheating, I had an ex who sheepishly told me he had booked a massage, I didnt react at all (seemed to me to be the same type of thing as telling me he was going to physio or something) - he couldnt believe I didnt react and way over reacted himself about me not caring and how come i wasnt annoyed etc..... i was totally bemused by it all til i spoke to a few friends and discovered this weird attitude to massage in this country.

 

[ubiquitous]

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The think the problem is that a lot of people in Ireland have serious issues when it comes to sex. For example, I did some web design work for an adult website. A few people couldn't grasp that adult website and paedophilia are not related. They were suspicous of me from then on. Sad.

Some of them might have been more worried by the links between the "adult website" industry in this country and organised crime, even though they might have been too circumspect/polite to tell you.

 

[truthseeker]

Some of them might have been more worried by the links between the "adult website" industry in this country and organised crime, even though they might have been too circumspect/polite to tell you.

Are there links between the adult website industry and organised crime? I didnt know that at all.

 

[ubiquitous]

Writers such as Paul Williams and Jim Cusack have repeatedly highlighted the links between certain gangland criminals and Irish porn and "escort" sites.

 

[truthseeker]

Writers such as Paul Williams and Jim Cusack have repeatedly highlighted the links between certain gangland criminals and Irish porn and "escort" sites.

Thanks Ubiquitous, I was aware of the 'escort' aspect of it but not the porn industry.

 

[Flax]

I think it's only a problem for escorting websites. I don't think it's a problem for porn?!

Anyway, one of the people said to me "what about the children?" with a look of pure horror on her face. I think maybe the problem is the media often use the word porn to describe child porn/images of child abuse.

I still find it bizarre that their brain connects things like that to children, or things like a massage to sex. Very weird.

 

[ubiquitous]

I think it's only a problem for escorting websites. I don't think it's a problem for porn?!

You may well be correct. However I would still say that there is a perception (correct or mistaken) that gangland figures are heavily involved in the Irish "adult" website industry. That may explain the responses you received

 

[truthseeker]

You may well be correct. However I would still say that there is a perception (correct or mistaken) that gangland figures are heavily involved in the Irish "adult" website industry. That may explain the responses you received

Yeah - you could well be right there.

People tend to make associations based on assumptions that its all much the same i.e., porn, escorts....