Someone suggested we can take cleaning jobs...not going that root. We did not spend years studying and working hard and then end up as cleaners. I wouldn't call myself stuck up person but we all have certain lifestyles that we can't just change. I don't mean we still continue to dine &wine in same style but still we have to keep certain dignity for ourselves.
That's an interesting point of view. Do you not see that you are far worse off than a cleaner with no debts. You are actually in effect a slave. To the banks. And they are going to keep you that way.
Obviously I didn't mean that you take a cleaning job, I'm just saying that in life one does what one can, degree or no degree, to get to somewhere better. I've waited tables and been a chambermaid and worked in a pub and if I had to do so again then I would. In your particular circumstances this is what I could do. You asked for solutions, just because the solutions involve us asking you awkward questions, and appearing not sympathetic, and you not liking our solutions doesn't mean we are not helping you. I'm not going to mess around with people and tell them everything is going to be ok. It won't be ok until people deal with their own messes. Because nobody else is going to sort it for you, only you.
In relation to your lifestyle, is it actually worth it, I note you didn't answer my points on how you are living now, about groceries and about what happens if a big bill comes in. Do you not worry every moment of the day about the debt?
The bank has suggested you get legal advice, you cannot afford it and in any case it won't help you. The bank has agreed that you sell the property and then you will owe the negative equity, it's not going to write off the debt, what they mean by judgment against you is a threat that they will put a judgment mortgage on your home. In your case this is pointless as you are in negative equity, but say you pay off the house mortgage in say 10 years, then if you think you own the house you don't because of the judgment mortgage. The amount owing going up meanwhile.
If they don't go for a judgement mortgage, then they will more likely go for an instalment order. You're offering them 50 to 150 Euro a month (Why would a bank agree to this, why would you? You'd never pay it off) In court a judge will look at all your income and expenditure and the bank will ask that you be left with the same amount to live on as is the dole currently (they've discussed this with government, leaving people on a dole amount and every cent above that to go towards paying debt). What kind of lifestyle will that be do you think?
In relation to the investment properties, I'm curious about one thing, did they ever pay their way? When you took out the mortgages did the rent pay for everything?