If there's one thing I've learnt from all my years on this planet it is you know your true friends when the chips are down.
I could write reams of personal trauma when I knew my job was in jeopardy some years ago. Some of my work colleagues who drank from the well of human smugness we very unsupportive, condescending and downright insulting. They thought they would never see a poor day, but that day came.
On the other hand,people need to look at how THEY behaved when others were in a similar situation.
Sometimes it can happen that you know of someone going through a hard time,and when you look back on it,you were not exactly coming to their aid.
Then when your time comes ,and you don't see people rallying,you may have to look at your own behaviour towards them.
I have found that in some tough situations,there are those who really couldn't care less,and then wonder why others are not queueing at their doors to help out when it hits them..Karma...
It can happen in good times as well. When I became a grandparent I didn't receive one phone call from any family member to offer congratulations. My son and partner weren't married when our grandaughter was born. I don't know if this was the reason why phone calls weren't made. Even my own parents didn't offer any congratulations and never spoke about or mentioned our grandaughters name for the first year of her life.
Several of my siblings have now become grandparents and I have to say that it sticks in my throat to participate in any discussion about their children. I know that this is wrong, the child is an innocent but I just stare blankly...
Sometimes I wish texts had never been invented. It can be very hurtful to receive a brief text when a phone call would have been more in order in the given situation like expressing support or condolences or even just canceling an arrangement. I don't really even consider texts to be making proper contact at all unless it's something like 'don't forget the milk', or 'there in 5 mins'.
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