I'm not adverse to black humour in anyone's private sphere but some things aren't funny. Rape is one of them.
I think this is it in a nutshell. One woman wouldn't give her name and another one was saying that she wouldn't be safe in garda custody - I think the gardai were incredulous that someone would think that - along the lines of 'what does she think we'd do? give us your name and address and I'll rape you'! - they seemed to be laughing at the very notion of it.It seems like they were laughing at how far fetched the notion that a woman would not be safe in their custody.
How on earth can you reach that conclusion based on a stupid comment.
And yet someone else might find something you say in private equally as offensive as you find the subject of rape. Would you want to lose your job over some stupid conversation?
The guards may very well take a rape allegation seriously, however based on that tape it is perceived by alot of people that they don't it's a bit of a joke...
I know this type of thing probably goes on in all walks of life when you have irresponsible people holding and sharing idiotic thoughts like this but the fact of the matter is they were caught and there should be something done about it
2. The protester over-reacted. Furthermore, she acted the ultra feeble female
How were these women vulnerable? ..
How were these women vulnerable?
Again this misses the point. It should not have been said in public, it should not have been said in private, it should not have been said by members of the force who have a responsibility for rape victims or by a crowd of lads in the pub on a Saturday night. Joking about rape trivialises the issue and creates a culture in which sexual violence is a topic of fun instead of the serious issue it is.
Any man in any conversation worth his salt should have said "shut up that's not on". Again I make the point that if they were joking about raping a child, people would be outraged. It does not matter that they were joking about a shell to sea protester who was in no real danger. It matters that they were joking.
the culture of rape humour to become as unacceptable as racism etc. .
Look I agree the comment was stupid and inappropriate.
However there is a difference if this was banter between two regular non garda guys, well hey they are creeps! The fact that this was a joke among guards gives a perception that rape is not seriously taken by the Gardai.. The guards may very well take a rape allegation seriously, however based on that tape it is perceived by alot of people that they don't it's a bit of a joke...
The argument that this is equivalant to a private and edgy joke in poor taste that we might privately snigger at. or it is the same as saying "I'd do" this or that person doesn't stand up in this context. Why?
1. These are Garda who have these women in lawful custody. They have power over them such that to a large extent the women are at their mercy and in their control. This is not the same as some comedian on a stage, or a comment passed in the office or a pub, where no real control is in play.
2. The word rape in the context of women (and of sexual crime) has a very particular and specific connotation. It has no bearing to any other context, because there is no other context in this case. The meaning of the word in this context is unambigious.
3. A common theme of porn is the "rape myth". A woman says no but really means yes. Thus a woman's refusal is sexualised and exploited. Likewise when you trivialise the term, or say it is not meant in that way, or that these people have sisters and mothers and don't/didn't mean it that way, you are underming the term, and silencing objectors by saying they are mis-reading it, "overreacting or "hysterical" or whatever. And it should be obvious that actual rapists have mothers and probably female relations as well.
I'm not saying that joking or whatever should be banned. But we need to understand just why these type of comments, if true, would be significant, and not to be dismissed lightly, or just excused as a stupid mistake, although it might be this too.
Other posters have said that nurses/Doctors/Ambulance drivers etc laugh about suicide etc, but the point is, up till now this was not generally known by the public ,,I would imagine a lot of people would be hurt to think that if their son/daughter etc had died that those who were there would have a laugh about it.or for some woman who could be raped today that she would now think ,are the professionals having a laugh about this... it really makes me think about how professional they are that they can behave in that way...this should not be in the public domain..too many people can be affected by it.
If I want a laugh ,I can go see a comedian,I didnt think I would find it after a tragic death among the nurses and doctors in A and E..
It is another way of losing the trust of the public and more importantly the families and friends and indeed the person who is raped..
I suppose to sum up,when I read the poster who said this happens all the time at coffee breaks,I felt ,can we trust no one when we are vulnerable?,as I honestly believed professional people dealing with tragedy would not find it funny..
I just know that anyone I have worked with would never,and have never discussed vunrable people in such a way,and if they did they would very quickly be put right..
And for those who are reading these posts,dont be disheartened,rest assured many of us still remain with some principals and value you and the majority of professionals do not have a laugh at others expense..
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