Marydoll, sorry to hear about your sister and it must be a lot of work looking after her. If you have 3000 Euro in your bank account for the means tested carers benefit/allowance which brings you over the limit, can you just spend the 3K to bring you back into being eligible for it. I wouldn't listed to other people in the social welfare office. You should sit down with a social welfare officer and ask exactly what are the rules. Or if you post on here more details, your income, your husband's income, your savings etc someone on this website might be able to tell you what you should be entitled to. For a start it's not clear if you were getting a 'benefit' or an 'allowance.'
Yop - is your neighbour looking after an ill person when he comes home from work? Any who are you to judge that other person, I have great sympathy with anyone who looks after disabled/incapacitated/sick relatives and friends and I feel they don't get paid half enough for it.