Can a child sue others child’s parent for assault by their little darling?

kingvagabond said:
Sorry to hear what your son and you have been going through. Have these kids been bullying anyone else around? Are the parents of these kids generally difficult to other neighbours? If so, you might be able to group together with other neighbours and submit several reports to gardai and community gardai officer. There is strength in numbers. Also just encourage your son to protect himself when outside. He may have to do what he has to do to protect his mind and body. This way he will not feel as disempowered. I know that David Coleman (child psycholgist) encourages this especially for those kids who keep bullying another child. Role play is good too. Show your child some appropriate sportsmen protecting themsevles on the field/pitch when getting physically attacked in a game. You will notice they rarely walk away without protecting themselves first. However if there is a group of kids and he is on his own I would not let him outside and if possible consider moving house unless the bully's parents are reasonable and are open to a conversation.
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Sensible advice ( unfortunately it’s harsh but a remedy)
 
Is he sporty? Even if he is not, I would recommend Taekwondo or any type martial art. Not for the damage he can do to others, but to build his self esteem and self confidence, learn how to deal with conflict , while at the same time gaining the knowledge that he can defend himself physically if he has to. A life time skill both physically and mentally.
 
Move house. This is the kind of country we live in now. Most people are unaware of it until it hits them personally. If you did try to sue the parents, or the Guards shocked everyone by prosecuting the brats, let's just say those parents will not be happy with you and this could get a lot worse for your whole family.

Martial arts training is a great idea for his confidence, but it won't help anyone with gangs that attack 20 on 1.
 
I remember being a bystander at a taekwondo class my son was participating in. The master asked the group, if you saw a potentially dangerous situation beginning to evolve where you could get hurt, what would you do? The children said, I would do this kick and that hold and so on. He just looked at them and said to them, no, what you do is, get to hell out of there as quick as you can. That must have been 17 years ago and it still sticks with me. No martial art advocates violence. It's all about discipline.
 
Winnie1 said:
My son hasn’t left the house in months.
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Well done for pushing on this, but my heart breaks with this line.

As a parent I'm hoping I help my kids to be the best people they can be, enjoy great experiences and learn from the bad. Its soul destroying when it feels like something outside of your control tears all that down.

While my son hasn't experienced what yours has, he has had a really tough, emotionally challenging time that for a long time "trapped" him at home in his own head. I worried, a lot, that he wouldn't get through it but time helps (its a cliche for a reason) - as does getting good support for you (parents) and, when he's ready, for him.

It may mean little now but I do think in the long run he will recognise that you didn't back away from this fight and saw it through. Hopefully when you and he look back on a long life this is only one short blip, and trust me I know it doesn't feel like a blip now.

Small steps, good support, new targets. By new targets I mean you have to let go of all the what ifs - if this hadn't happened, he'd be doing so well, he'd be out, socialising etc. Look for small wins for both him and you, because you have both been through hell - but its does get better.
 
Winnie1 said:
Update: boys got a JLO for violent disorder. The fact it was an organised and premeditated attack I think. My son hasn’t left the house in months.
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The first half of your post is great news.

Have you ruled out moving home?
 
MelF said:
I thought the same. *Hilarious* - unless you're a girl... :confused:
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I think the point is that avoiding a fight is better than winning it.

As a man I have never found my ego is so fragile that I need to validate my masculinity every time someone becomes aggressive. Therefore I have always tried to back away from confrontation. Flight rather than fight is usually the best option.
 
Not considering moving, my son has a hidden disability which most neurotypical people don’t understand so he’s likely to be bullied regularly during his lifetime. If we move house it’s likely another a$$hole will feel the need to spend his time telling my son how $hit he is
 
Purple said:
I think the point is that avoiding a fight is better than winning it.

As a man I have never found my ego is so fragile that I need to validate my masculinity every time someone becomes aggressive. Therefore I have always tried to back away from confrontation. Flight rather than fight is usually the best option.
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The 'anecdote' was told in regards to a woman who wanted to learn self-defence.

correction: now that I read @PatrickSmithUS post again, I see the reference was in fact to a child, which makes even more objectionable.

The 'run-away' comment was not remotely funny; but the responses here clearly reflect the completely different reality women face.
 
Thirsty said:
The 'run-away' comment was not remotely funny; but the responses here clearly reflect the completely different reality women face.
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The subject here is assault, and men make up ~60% of the victims of attempts/threats to murder, assaults, harassments and related offences.
 
Leo said:
The subject here is assault, and men make up ~60% of the victims of attempts/threats to murder, assaults, harassments and related offences.
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Can you provide validated data which includes the gender of the perpetrator?

Even the CSO adds caveats to the Garda Pulse data it reports.
 
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