The majority of the people in this country don't want to join the UK and the majority in Northern Ireland don't want to join this country.
Well, yes, on the bare canvass of simply removing the border by referendum, that would appear to be case today etc
But are we not in a 'Shared island' mode? I don't think it is unreasonable to assess that the current situation of a divided Ireland hasn't really worked that well.
So rather than pull Unionists into a United Irish Republic, why not join with them in a federal union between Britain and Ireland? Our history and cultures are inextricably linked, most of the rest of the world cannot distinguish between us. Allowing for all the diversity within our societies centuries old division may disappear and they become irrelevant.
Us Southerners already accept a significant portion of our citizenery should accept their lot in the UK, and it appears a significant portion of that lot are quite content to do so.
Maybe all this Republican idealism was a mistake? Ok, it has great intentions, and yes, London's record of governance in Ireland is pretty absymal.
But as the Reverend Ian said to the Rebel Martin "
We don't need Englishmen to rule us. We can do that ourselves."
Afterall, having gained our 'independence' from Britain in 1921, we then joined with them again in another economic union when we joined the EEC 50yrs later.
Our place in the future is to stand with Britain, as equal partners.