The rest of the family has no automatic right to benefit from the arrangement. It's not their money!
We can all take the moral high ground on these issues. As a parent I would like to leave some money to my children and grandchildren. I think most people would.
I also think that most children would like to inherit something from their parents. When the children begin to have an expectation or an elevated sense of entitlement is where the problems begin.
I think if we see our parents enjoying their life to it's fullest we are happy. Some people might see this in another way. They are squandering our inheritance type of attitude.
One of the above cases has received a lot of coverage in the media. The husband was not shown in a kind light. We don't know the story but he has now been identified because of the media coverage. He received circa €160k or did he? We actually don't know. Maybe he only received a portion of this and if so what happened to the rest of the money?
Was this half the value of the house at the time? Would the "husband" have been able to purchase a property for himself with his half during the tiger years?
Why has the daughter, after 10 years, decided to raise this issue? Why not after 5 years? Why not after 6 years? Why not after 7 years? Why not after 8 years? Why not after 9 years? Who paid the utility bills, insurance and maintained the property for the past 10 years? The mother?
What has changed? The mother has moved in with the daughter? The house still requires the same costs to run. The mother can continue to maintain it as she has done over the past 10 years. Maybe the daughter now sees the cost and what is involved in running this house. Why did she not see this over the past 10 years?
Or is there something else going on? Maybe.....why am I left to look after mother and deal with the empty house while the other siblings do nothing? I feel I should be paid for this.......maybe?