Hi Peterpanics
I've been following this thread with interest and commend you on your planning and for thinking through so thoroughly how you want to live your life and working to achieve it!
A couple of things that strike me
- I am amazed how at negative many of the posts are towards your suggestion. If your estimate that you and your wife can earn approx 55k per annum after you have downsized and 'retired' is correct, with low or no childcare expenses, low or no mortgage and a good pot of savings, that puts you in an extremely fortunate position. We are a family of two adults and two kids with a very high mortgage, very high childcare costs and lots of the costs associated with both working full time outside the home (travel, work clothes, etc etc) and manage very well on a net income of 65k. Without a mortgage or childcare costs, I reckon we would be comfortable on 25k net. Your 55k gross (probably about 35 - 40k net?) would therefore be an annual fortune!
- You are basing your planning on the assuption that your wife will want to work more or less full time and you will want to spend a significant proportion of your time caring for your children. That's fine, but I would not make a final assessment of whether this lifestyle will work for you both in the medium to long term until you actually have your first child. Childrearing, particularly if you are relatively isolated geographically, can be an exhausting and thankless task and it takes a particular type of person to find personal fulfillment in making this their main life project. I don't mean this as negatively as it sounds - having children is also incredibly joyful and life affirming - but I think you need to establish for yourself personally that being more or less a full-time parent is genuinely what you want to do and I think its hard to establish that without actually living the reality of it!
- In terms of long term planning for your children, its very important that you choose to downsize to a location where there are free national and secondary schools that you are happy with and are in the catchment area for. If you can be fairly sure that the first 18 years of your children's education will be largely cost free (you will inevitably end up paying for extra-curricular stuff and school associated stuff at some stage), that gives you substantial room for maneovre in terms of planning for potential third level costs.
- Health: make sure that your planning includes a good chunk of money annually which is set aside for private health insurance. An unfortunate necessity in my opinion. However, if you shop around and reaslistically assess what you really need, you can keep costs down. We are constrained to one particular insurer because I have a pre-existing condition, but we still managed to half our bills this year by changing our policy to one which includes a very similar level of cover, but does away with some of the fluff that we never use or claim for anyway.
Keep us updated on your progress, sounds like you have your priorities very clear!