Do ppl single and living at home pay rent nowadays?

[callybags]

I lived at home on and off ( but mostly on) until I was about 34 and always paid up about 25% of income. My parents didn't really need the money. When I was buying my first house, I was presented with a cheque for roughly the amount I had contributed.

I have been so grateful ever since and lavish them with love and affection- much more appreciated than filthy lucre

 

[Sol28]

I lived at home in my early 20s. My parents wouldnt think about taking money off me. They werent wealthy - but comfortable.

Did you offer or just assume?

Yes - I offered. They knew I wasnt being wasteful with my money. That while I wasnt a hermit - I was also sensible.

You cant assume that all younger people are wastefull and extravagant - there's so many examples of thrifty people of all ages on this site.

People stateing that unless theres been tough love and that rent money is taken off children - they will never learn to budget and live on their own and manage their own affairs is a load of tosh. I agree people need to learn to stand on their own feet - but how this is done is dependent on the individual.

 

[liaconn]

Yes - I offered. They knew I wasnt being wasteful with my money. That while I wasnt a hermit - I was also sensible.

You cant assume that all younger people are wastefull and extravagant - there's so many examples of thrifty people of all ages on this site.

People stateing that unless theres been tough love and that rent money is taken off children - they will never learn to budget and live on their own and manage their own affairs is a load of tosh. I agree people need to learn to stand on their own feet - but how this is done is dependent on the individual.

I have to say, I don't agree with this. I know people who moved home for a few years, rent free, on the understanding they were saving for a deposit and I think that's fine. But I think an awful lot of young people. if they just aren't charged any rent from the day they start working simply because their parents don't need the money, will never really get a grip on reality and will get the shock of their lives when they eventually move out.

 

[buzybee]

I didn't mind paying up a third of my income if the house was heated properly and if I got cooked meals. I didn't like paying up a third of my income, feeling uncomfortably cool despite wearing warm clothes, and having to buy my dinner out a few times a week.

I feel a bit mad that living at home was costing nearly more than a houseshare, yet I didn't ever have freedom to watch what I like on tv etc.

I feel that it is like as if parents didn't want me to move out and buy my own house, as I was charged so much for so little services and it was very hard to save.

Also I feel resentful that my parents didn't give any help with loaning me their car for learning to drive. Having to pay for a lesson every time I wanted to practise made learning to drive very expensive.

Easily known the people who handed up little or no money at home stayed living at home for years on end, they knew they were on to a good thing. Their families had less money, but they still got an easier time and it was easier for them to move out eventually and buy a house.

 

[callybags]

I didn't mind paying up a third of my income if the house was heated properly and if I got cooked meals. I didn't like paying up a third of my income, feeling uncomfortably cool despite wearing warm clothes, and having to buy my dinner out a few times a week.

I feel a bit mad that living at home was costing nearly more than a houseshare, yet I didn't ever have freedom to watch what I like on tv etc.

I feel that it is like as if parents didn't want me to move out and buy my own house, as I was charged so much for so little services and it was very hard to save.

Also I feel resentful that my parents didn't give any help with loaning me their car for learning to drive. Having to pay for a lesson every time I wanted to practise made learning to drive very expensive.

Easily known the people who handed up little or no money at home stayed living at home for years on end, they knew they were on to a good thing. Their families had less money, but they still got an easier time and it was easier for them to move out eventually and buy a house.

This to me sounds very selfish.

What do you mean when you say is cost "nearly more" than a houseshare? Why did you not move out?

Why did you think you were paying for "services"?

Why do you feel you had a right to the use of the car to practice?

 

[buzybee]

Maybe it was selfish but we were living in the country, 10 miles from town. We were 3 miles from the nearest shop. There was no such thing as hopping on a bus whenever you felt like it. There was no such thing as going to pubs/nightclubs every weekend either! I would stay with my aunt in town once a month and go out then. We were 3 miles off a bus route, so I had no way of going to work unless I got a car. My mother would drive to her work, and I would get a lift with her. Then I would walk 20 mins to other side of city to my work.

Friends and my OH who were also from country places would get shown how to drive as you have to be able to drive in the country to go anywhere.

I think it would be even more selfish to move out to a houseshare in town. Why give unknown landlords rent, when you could pay at home, and give parents the money. There was an unspoken thing that people who moved out of home to live in the same town in a houseshare were completely off the wall selfish. I knew that moving out unless I was getting married/buying a house would cause more trouble than its worth.

 

[Bronte]

Some of us had no heating at all sometimes (duvets on the couch and hot water bottles in glass bottles !) , no buses and no transport, nor regular meals. Hot water was a hit and miss affair. Where I lived there was a single solitary disco once a year which you had to walk to and from in the dark for miles. And you'd be lucky if you had the money to pay for it (and nothing else) and lucky if allowed to go.

Buzybee there was absolutely nothing stopping you from moving out. For goodness sake you had money and you thereby had choice.

 

[TheBlock]

One of 6 kids. We each handed up something but it was never a percentage of your wages, usually a set figure was handed up on Thursday (Payday) plus a few quid that Mam would lodge in the CU for us. Invariably Mam would take pity on myself and my brother when Sunday came around and we hadn't a bean and give us back the price of a few pints (She never told the sisters this)

We all moved out fairly youngish in our early-mid twenties but I think this was more to do with 6 adults sharing one bedroom than anything else though. Kids these days huh...they don't know their born.

 

[buzybee]

That is fighting talk to just 'move out' Moving out is all very well when people have partners or other brothers & sisters. If they fall out with parents it doesnt seem so bad because they have other close connections.

I felt I couldn't move out cos parents made it clear that nobody decent moved out of home to rent a house in the same town. I was afraid of falling out with them, because if I did, I would have nowhere to go for Xmas day. If I had a partner, or even a married sister, I would have somewhere else to go for Xmas day if I fell out with my parents. I felt that I depended on parents more, as I was an only child and was single.

All very well to go to a disco once a year if you are 18, but not a good lifestyle if you are 25 and hoping to meet a partner & have kids etc.

Finally when I bought my own house I was NOT presented with a cheque for my contributions over the years. (I didn't care as I was just happy to get my own place).