How much are people putting in the card for communion these days?
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I'm sorry but I think €100 is just totally over the top to what is your mothers nephew's/niece's daughter. I even think €50 in that situation to be more than enough. She is a pensioner, I don't think "miserable" enters into it. I'd be putting €20 into the card and if they have a problem with that then they have a poor view of the whole occasion.
Alternatively, she could steer away completely from the money by giving the child a nice communion related present. That way money doesn't enter into it.
I'm sorry but I think €100 is just totally over the top to what is your mothers nephew's/niece's daughter. I even think €50 in that situation to be more than enough. She is a pensioner, I don't think "miserable" enters into it. I'd be putting €20 into the card and if they have a problem with that then they have a poor view of the whole occasion.
Alternatively, she could steer away completely from the money by giving the child a nice communion related present. That way money doesn't enter into it.
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I think €100 for an eight year old is ridiculous. I've hear that the "going rate" is between €20 and €50 depending on relationship with child. I've never been to a Communion (as an adult) but I have absolutely no intention of giving out this amount of money to children. How about a few scratch cards inside the card instead of cash?
I think €100 for an eight year old is ridiculous. I've hear that the "going rate" is between €20 and €50 depending on relationship with child. I've never been to a Communion (as an adult) but I have absolutely no intention of giving out this amount of money to children. How about a few scratch cards inside the card instead of cash?
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I'd agree with the idea of a pressie from close family members & I encouraged this as much as possible. My son made his First Communion recently & (of those who didn;t give a pressie) family generally gave €30 to €50 (one exception from a god parent who forgets birthdays & xmas all the time !!).
Close friends €20 to €30 & some neighbours, €10-€20.
I'd agree with the idea of a pressie from close family members & I encouraged this as much as possible. My son made his First Communion recently & (of those who didn;t give a pressie) family generally gave €30 to €50 (one exception from a god parent who forgets birthdays & xmas all the time !!).
Close friends €20 to €30 & some neighbours, €10-€20.
Tomodinhio
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From the childs perspective, id say give me the money, she'll get a good start on all her friends in the makin lots of money day that makes the church so great.
From the childs perspective, id say give me the money, she'll get a good start on all her friends in the makin lots of money day that makes the church so great.
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That is far to much.my daughter made her communion last sunday.i put 40e in her card and family and friends gave her 10-20e . its not all about the money.the kids just want to spend the money in smyths toy store.or on junk.
That is far to much.my daughter made her communion last sunday.i put 40e in her card and family and friends gave her 10-20e . its not all about the money.the kids just want to spend the money in smyths toy store.or on junk.
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€50 was the standard about 5 years ago, when one of my friend's children was making their communion.
That was completely over the top, I thought.
He just made his confirmation now, and I gave him €20 in a card.
(He specifically said he only wanted money, not gifts!!!).
I think it's a bad lesson to give children too much money for their communion/confirmation, but I wouldn't be brave enough to just give the card!
Nicola
€50 was the standard about 5 years ago, when one of my friend's children was making their communion.
That was completely over the top, I thought.
He just made his confirmation now, and I gave him €20 in a card.
(He specifically said he only wanted money, not gifts!!!).
I think it's a bad lesson to give children too much money for their communion/confirmation, but I wouldn't be brave enough to just give the card!
Nicola
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But isn't that part of the problem: People feel they need to give X amount, because everyone else is.
This is part of the whole excessiveness that came with the Celtic Tiger, which was not good for children. Hopefully this will all stop now.
Nicola (a newfound Grinch)
But isn't that part of the problem: People feel they need to give X amount, because everyone else is.
This is part of the whole excessiveness that came with the Celtic Tiger, which was not good for children. Hopefully this will all stop now.
Nicola (a newfound Grinch)
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I get what you're saying here and have said it myself plenty of times... but, when you think about it ,look awful to who? Are the parents of the child really saying to themselves "Oh, so and so is just so mean" or is it the child who is saying "so and so is a right tightwad!" And if they are saying this then that is a poor reflection on them.
I was talking to a colleague and she was saying she would never give less than €50 for a communion because she doesn't want to look mean. But none of us are too worried about looking mean when the charity boxes do the rounds and they are ofter a far more worthy cause than a spending spree in Smiths Toys for an 8 year old.
I get what you're saying here and have said it myself plenty of times... but, when you think about it ,look awful to who? Are the parents of the child really saying to themselves "Oh, so and so is just so mean" or is it the child who is saying "so and so is a right tightwad!" And if they are saying this then that is a poor reflection on them.
I was talking to a colleague and she was saying she would never give less than €50 for a communion because she doesn't want to look mean. But none of us are too worried about looking mean when the charity boxes do the rounds and they are ofter a far more worthy cause than a spending spree in Smiths Toys for an 8 year old.
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+1. Going back to the OP's question re giving 100 euro, I would consider that way too much. I think you have to consider how many of these events you are going to be giving gifts for, in any one year. Also in the current climate most of us are trying to live on less money so we have to think about what we can afford to give rather than worrying about how it looks to others.
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you did right.its not all about the money.
you did right.its not all about the money.
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Give them some time - take the kid(s) out for an outing some time after the big day, maybe the cinema or zoo or meal or whatever. That gives the mums and dads a little break too.
Give them some time - take the kid(s) out for an outing some time after the big day, maybe the cinema or zoo or meal or whatever. That gives the mums and dads a little break too.
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I know this is not really in the opening question, but do everyone realise that it is normal nowadays , for the parents of the child receiving communion to provide '' refreshments and entertainment'' in a local hotel/restaurant.
This comes at a huge cost , depending on how many you 'invite '
Communion/confirmation lunches range in price from € 10 per head to up to € 25 per head .
I am sure that some of the cost of this is partly offset with a 'contribution' from the child in question
I know this is not really in the opening question, but do everyone realise that it is normal nowadays , for the parents of the child receiving communion to provide '' refreshments and entertainment'' in a local hotel/restaurant.
This comes at a huge cost , depending on how many you 'invite '
Communion/confirmation lunches range in price from € 10 per head to up to € 25 per head .
I am sure that some of the cost of this is partly offset with a 'contribution' from the child in question