Just looking for some objective advice from the men here. Had somebody doing some work for me who one day put his arm around me and asked me if I was in a relationship. I got such a shock that I said I was, sort of, and he said whoever, he was he was a very lucky guy. Later I texted him and said was only up for frienship with any guy at the moment. He texted me back to say coffee with no strings would be fine. I texted back that this would be greate. This guy is in his mid fifties and I am early forties. He remained quite flirtatious for the rest of the time when the work was being done. He's 99% finished work now - only one tiny thing to be done - so I texted him about this yesterday, said I hadn't been quite truthful - I wasn't in a relationship, but met an old friend in Dublin for lunch and drinks on some Saturdays. I said I am the kind of person that needs loads of time to think so that''s why I was only getting back to coffee issue now - suggested that sometime I would like to meet for coffee at our local heritage place. However, just after I texted him, my au pair, who has lied in relation to money before, told me that he made a pass at her and kissed her when I wasn't here last Fri. Now the guy is completely ignoring me, hasn't responded at all to my text, looked away today when I saw him in the street, and I also don't know who to believe him or my au pair. By the way, not a clingy woman, career, kids, studying, busy life. We had a lot in common, both into property and renting it. Guys, I'd like an opinion. Thanks.