I dont think any man sees the dirt a woman does, I know exactly how you feel , being very ocd myself and constantly wound up. I do find though that some days you need to just say to hell with it all and do absultely nothing or you run the fear of wearing yourself out completely
Ignoring the blatant sexism of that comment I find that my wife is useless at cleaning. She can tidy but she can’t clean worth a damn and I’ve never met a woman that can iron properly.
Caveat is right, it’s all about perspective. Ask yourself if the world will stop turning if you don’t do what you are worried about. People are what bring happiness everything else is just a tool to help you interact with others. I de-stress by interacting with my wife and children and friends. Walking and running are also good, as is reading and listening to music but in the end happiness and hope come from our relationships.