CorkHarbour
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Hello All,
I have a problem that you might be able to help with. I read a lot of other posts here to search for an answer but my situation is a little different than others.
My mother died three years ago after a long illness. My sister looked after her in her home when mum could no longer maintain her independance.
We knew the cancer was terminal and my sister had to face the horrible task of asking mum about her final wishes etc. My mum was a private person who kept a lot inside and faced everything bravely so my sister had to find out if she had any last requests.
When she managed to find out where mum wanted to rest and that, she broached the subject of a will and asked would she like to speak to a solicitor, mum said she would.
Here the problems started, the solicitor my sister contacted kept saying she'd call out this day, the next day but never showed up.
My sister was under a lot of other stress now as mum was getting worse by the day, she asked me what to do when I managed to get home to visit.
I said we could always draw a temp. will just incase mum passed away, I shouldnt have I know, but i was more worried about keeping mum and my sister happy than anything else.
I typed it up. It just said,
"This is the last will and testament of..(mums name and address),
I leave all my worldly goods and possessions to my daughter (sis's name) and she will be responsible for my affairs as the executor of my will."
Mum signed it and with the witnesses signed it as well.
Mum died just a few days later, god rest her and it took ages for us to decide on her headstone and stuff so when we got them finished my sister still hadnt done anything with the will and the gravestone company told us that they would just send the bill to the bank in mums name, that this was normal.
My sister thinks that the will is not legal and that if we send it to a solicitor, she will be told that she will have to contact the whole family which contains three siblings who never spoke to mum for the past decade and whom shes feels and (I and the other two remaining decent childern feel) should not profit one red cent from a woman they hurt so much. They didnt even show up for her funeral.
My mum had no house and just a bank account and maybe a post office account we are talking about a couple of grand at most, after the grave bill.
What should we do?
I think the will is legal and all a soliciter will do is discover whats in mums accounts, close them and get it sent to my sister minus a small fee and that the other siblings including myself wont be informed in anyway because it has noting to do with us.
My sister wants to leave everthing alone in case they get anything.
I would like to finish up everything neatly as we have a history in ourfamily of not bringing closure to anything and it leaves things undone.
I know this is a huge opening post so thank you for taking the time to read it.
I have a problem that you might be able to help with. I read a lot of other posts here to search for an answer but my situation is a little different than others.
My mother died three years ago after a long illness. My sister looked after her in her home when mum could no longer maintain her independance.
We knew the cancer was terminal and my sister had to face the horrible task of asking mum about her final wishes etc. My mum was a private person who kept a lot inside and faced everything bravely so my sister had to find out if she had any last requests.
When she managed to find out where mum wanted to rest and that, she broached the subject of a will and asked would she like to speak to a solicitor, mum said she would.
Here the problems started, the solicitor my sister contacted kept saying she'd call out this day, the next day but never showed up.
My sister was under a lot of other stress now as mum was getting worse by the day, she asked me what to do when I managed to get home to visit.
I said we could always draw a temp. will just incase mum passed away, I shouldnt have I know, but i was more worried about keeping mum and my sister happy than anything else.
I typed it up. It just said,
"This is the last will and testament of..(mums name and address),
I leave all my worldly goods and possessions to my daughter (sis's name) and she will be responsible for my affairs as the executor of my will."
Mum signed it and with the witnesses signed it as well.
Mum died just a few days later, god rest her and it took ages for us to decide on her headstone and stuff so when we got them finished my sister still hadnt done anything with the will and the gravestone company told us that they would just send the bill to the bank in mums name, that this was normal.
My sister thinks that the will is not legal and that if we send it to a solicitor, she will be told that she will have to contact the whole family which contains three siblings who never spoke to mum for the past decade and whom shes feels and (I and the other two remaining decent childern feel) should not profit one red cent from a woman they hurt so much. They didnt even show up for her funeral.
My mum had no house and just a bank account and maybe a post office account we are talking about a couple of grand at most, after the grave bill.
What should we do?
I think the will is legal and all a soliciter will do is discover whats in mums accounts, close them and get it sent to my sister minus a small fee and that the other siblings including myself wont be informed in anyway because it has noting to do with us.
My sister wants to leave everthing alone in case they get anything.
I would like to finish up everything neatly as we have a history in ourfamily of not bringing closure to anything and it leaves things undone.
I know this is a huge opening post so thank you for taking the time to read it.