Kimmagegirl
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I hope as a newcomer to Askaboutmoney that I am posting this question in the right place.
My mother died about 6 years ago. During her life she was not treated very well by my father. It's a long story with some awful thoughtlesness and selfishisness on my fathers part.
For the past 6 she has been free of the man. For the first time in her life she has been symbolicly free of the man, in her own grave.
The thoughts of my fathers coffin being placed on top of my mothers coffin in her grave is causing me great upset. It's as if he is back on top of her again controlling her space.
I have visited my mothers grave over the years and I have privately spoken to her. When my father dies I will feel that these private moments will be taken away from me. He will be there.
I have vowed never to visit my father's grave when he dies. I will not be able to visit my mothers grave knowing that he is there.
Can I do anything to stop my father being buried alongside my mother. There are two other siblings involved who also dislike my father but would not allow this to happen.
Any advice?
My mother died about 6 years ago. During her life she was not treated very well by my father. It's a long story with some awful thoughtlesness and selfishisness on my fathers part.
For the past 6 she has been free of the man. For the first time in her life she has been symbolicly free of the man, in her own grave.
The thoughts of my fathers coffin being placed on top of my mothers coffin in her grave is causing me great upset. It's as if he is back on top of her again controlling her space.
I have visited my mothers grave over the years and I have privately spoken to her. When my father dies I will feel that these private moments will be taken away from me. He will be there.
I have vowed never to visit my father's grave when he dies. I will not be able to visit my mothers grave knowing that he is there.
Can I do anything to stop my father being buried alongside my mother. There are two other siblings involved who also dislike my father but would not allow this to happen.
Any advice?