Re: Feminism
Daltonr
You are more or less making the same point as me now, I think. I never said women were downtrodden by society. I said that it is very strange that the increase in women's equality rights has not been met by their taking advantage of those rights. I don't know why they are not; I originally said that I believe they have chosen not to, which would be fine with me if they had used the power to carve out a new way forward for themselves; but they haven't.
Like you and casiopea it didn't really occur to me that women "couldn't" participate until I came across the alarming poverty statistics and while I'm still investigating this, if it's true then the situation is far more grave than I thought. I've said time and again that whatever the reason women are not there, we should investigate it; something is wrong. And I also said that I was worried it was because we may not have it in us. However if women were not interested in pursuing these kinds of roles, why the big fight in the first place? Society in general can only benefit from finding out what's going on here.
Things are not as black and white as identifying something is wrong, legislate and hey presto it's fixed. There are laws against all kinds of discrimination but it doesn't mean that racism (e.g.) doesn't exist.
No woman I went to school with wanted to work a work-a-day job and none of them wanted to simply be mothers or wives either. We had the same dreams as the lads. Our school (and girls in general) did far better in the Leaving Cert. So what happened since - where are they and shouldn't they be leading the way now? Did the ambition that got them such good Leaving Cert marks just vanish and get replaced by some kind of fatalistic attitude in the space of a few years? And if so, what does that make the likes of casiopea whose ambition didn't desert her? Do men really find that their sisters, wives and mothers happier to settle for what they have than men? If ambition is genetically related to gender then how come before women entered the work place the male managers still had plenty of male subordinates ? Again, I have my doubts about the genetics and gender claims.
Many of my friends are of the marrying age and have all wondered how they would manage their jobs when kids come along. None of their partners are particularly concerned about this. You've already stated and I agreed that women who leave for child bearing/rearing issues should not necessarily be given the same treatment as their male counterparts and their childless female counterparts, so my friends have a valid worry (and their husbands don't!). One friend of mine who is separated has accepted that she can't go beyond a Grade 5 in her Local Authority (i.e. government!) job because there is no flexi-time available at higher grades and she can't work it any other way with the childminder. I'm not saying either of these things are right or wrong but they might be part of the reason why there aren't so many women in so many professions and if they are part of the reason then it's not really equality, is it.
I saw first hand three women with a combined total of 50 years of experience and two degrees being passed over for a sales manager's job in favour of a guy who failed his Leaving and had never worked in the industry in question; why? He had great contacts and kudos from his high profile GAA career - how does a woman match that? Despite the obvious discrimination, I had sympathy for the company - the guy really could sell more because of his profile but are these kinds of "network" issues another barrier for women?
Maybe not-so-blatant discrimination (such as the annecdotes above) is more widespread than we think and maybe we don't examine it closely enough. To be honest, the more I've explored why women aren't more involved in society through this thread, the more I start to suspect it has less to do with choice than I originally thought. On the one hand I find it deeply depressing that that might be the case but on the other at least it is preferable to "not having it in us". I still can't figure out why there aren't more people interested in the whole debate though.
Rebecca