Thanks for your response. The problem is that the furniture items were given to his wife and are sitting in his house where he is enjoying full use of them.
Ok what are we talking here? As in can you list say the top 5 items, their age and the value you would put on them? Then can you list the costs of selling them? Prior to the headstone issue did anyone express a wish to have the furniture. Does anyone want it now, do they have a place to put it.
Having come through this myself, we had one sibling wanted to ship the whole lot off to an already full house to recreate the 'lost person' The cost of moving - one end of the country to the other - would have been more than the cost of the items. Another sibling, I had given notice I was coming to Ireland to clear out the house, everybody could pick what they wanted in turn, and despite this, as I loaded the skip and give stuff to the travellers (saves money on putting stuff in skip and saves on trips to 'donate' to SVdeP etc) sibling who had weeks and weeks to think about it arrives and asks where decrepit old rug of 20 years is. And that sibling had visited house every day practically ! Bottom of skip but welcome to go get it ! The skip was piled so high you wouldn't believe it and even still the local travellers put more stuff on top, honestly don't know who the bin men took it away.
The person who presented the bill for the headstone had no right to a) get a job done expecting it to be paid out of estate without permission of executor b) get agreement of all beneficiaries that this was ok - most normal families would agree on this, - but still not binding on exectutor c) has some cheek coming with this when the estate is distributed d) would probably complain if the executor didn't do a good job and distribute fairly e) what on earth is the executor supposed to do now f) whould the furniture be even an issue g) why wasn't the furniture issue flagged as an issue.
Be warned, being executuor is a thankless job.
Solutions
1. Person who ordered headstone pays for it
2. All the beneficiaries pay for the headstone, out of their proceeds of the estate
3. Go and sue the executor and see how far that gets one and see the never ending family war that ensues.