my brother has nicknamed wedding invites as "a summons !".
for him being a self employed farm contractor, he loses a fortune for two days at least (one to attend and one to recover). new outfits and hairdressers for his wife - 200 euros at least, maybe even stay over in the hotel 100 euros at least, 150 euros seems to be the going rate as a gift, beer money 200 euros at least, babysitting fees 50 euros and it goes on ! that's 1000 euros so far which includes loss of earnings and thats without going mad !
and no he is neither a tight git or a misery just the average Joe trying to make a living.
my cousin had her wedding recently, it cost just under 40,000 for 340 guests and it was a two day affair and it was actually nothing outrageous for the money.
she now has a 15,000 debt to pay off on top of building her own home.