Value of wedding gift

Cahir said:

A crystal vase or centre piece is a really bad gift idea. Gifts like this tend to end up in charity shops or gathering dust in the attic.

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my own personal taste is unusual and a lot of people would not like it. i absolutely hate receiving things like crystal vases or centre pieces as ive nowhere to put them and they always end up either looking ugly (my opinion) somewhere or gathering dust elsewhere.

I think 100 euro a head is plenty for a wedding gift. To be honest whatever you can afford is fine.

I am getting married next year and we will prefer money than presents, not because we are trying to turn a profit but we already have all our homewares, and nowhere to put ornaments etc...

The lump sum approach is a great idea, and it is much nicer to receive a decent amount in one card.

We wouldnt ask for cash but already people have asked me what id like and ive said i already have all the material items i need and the response is always - grand, so would you prefer cash then? And the hinest answer is Yes.

Truthseeker - absolutely fine to say that to someone when specifically asked. Just not okay to state generally that you want cash. Indicating that you already have all the material items you need is a good way of approaching it.

Trent said:

Truthseeker - absolutely fine to say that to someone when specifically asked. Just not okay to state generally that you want cash. Indicating that you already have all the material items you need is a good way of approaching it.

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might be different for us as we are only gonna ask extremely close friends and immediate family. will be a very small group. so no chance of offending anyone as they would know us well enough to know we already have alll we need etc...

You need to give whatever you can afford and feel comfortable with giving. I got married 10 years ago, some aunts/uncles gave me IRL£250 and some gave IRL£50. It made no difference to me whatsoever what was given, the fact that they shared in our special day was more than enough for me. If people feel a present is "cheap" I say shame on them and they need to look within themselves to see what is really cheap.

A bride and groom should not always expect the meal to be covered by the gift, sometimes expensive hotels are used with room rates of EUR180 or even EUR250 for one night, can a person on a pension be expected to give a EUR200 present and pay for their o/night? As I said give what you can afford and what you feel comfortable with and enjoy the day out. On a separate note, so much money is given nowadays (and 10 years ago I received a lot of money) it is often nice to receive a gift. Everytime I use certain glasses, cutlery set or vase I think of the person who gave it to me for my wedding day and sadly some of those persons have passed away but my memory of them is triggered everytime I use that special something.

Alternatively, you could give a smaller sum of money and a gift.