triple glazing is less necessary on south facing. You will need to check the cost against the improvement.
Your ecobead sounds like it would be .22 not 2.2.
Hastalavista: I believe that Homebond are ok on anything up to 150mm, above that requires engineer's special design.
It would be a good idea to look at the overall u-value for the house - there isn't too much point in sticking an amazing but expensively insulated extension if all of the heat loss is through the rest of the house. So also look to improve draughts, efficient boiler, any obvious locations for insulation etc. in the existing.
Generally, your specification is pretty good. Without more information, I suspect that the triple glazing may be unnecessary - given that the heat loss is likely to be through the rest of the house. If it can be done for a low extra cost, then go ahead.
Getting an actual BER done by somebody competent will give you a lot more information to play with.
Don't forget the grants available.