No need for the sarcasm. It's a common occurence unfortunately. My friend dropped his daughter at a youth disco but on the way home realised she had left her mobile in the car so turned around to give it to her. When he arrived back, he found her with a bunch of friends near the disco removing their knickers before they went into the disco.
She was 14 too as I recall....
Sorry - I didn't realise that you had TWO second hand reports of this sort of thing. I am totally convinced now. Thanks.No need for the sarcasm. It's a common occurence unfortunately. My friend dropped his daughter at a youth disco but on the way home realised she had left her mobile in the car so turned around to give it to her. When he arrived back, he found her with a bunch of friends near the disco removing their knickers before they went into the disco.
She was 14 too as I recall....
Sorry - I didn't realise that you had TWO second hand reports of this sort of thing. I am totally convinced now. Thanks.
Why bother....
I can understand Clubman's reaction in this case. Someone hears a story about girls who wrap their knickers around their wrists, someone sees several girls dressed up like they're out in the town and their logical conclusion is that 'kids are growing up too fast'. It's a blatant generalisation.
I doubt that someone who knew a group of twenty-somethings who regularly had one night stands or dressed a certain way would think that all twenty-somethings were like that, just like only a very naive person would assume that every retired person knitted or went to the bingo every weekend.
But I think young people are being lumped together by what we hear either in private conversation or in the media, and it always surprises me how quickly people accept negative information at face value. Tweenies/Teenagers are either hoodlums that wouldn't think twice about binge drinking and commiting crimes, or they are sex objects who dress provocatively and tie their knickers around their wrists. Somehow it's become common to fear or look down upon these age groups.
It's a blatant generalisation.
I'm sure parents out there (I'm not one of them, but I do sympathise as I was once that age too!) become annoyed with all these generalisations. There are plenty of kids who are well-mannered and perfectly happy to just go to a school dance and have a 'chaste' good time, but it's just more reports and talk about how young people are going to the dogs.
It always surprises me how willing people are to believe the worst - wouldn't you like to give children the benefit of the doubt? I remember how frustrating it was to be young and feel like I didn't have a voice or a say in the world, trying to find my own path in life, and have people tar you with the same stick as everyone else.
S.L.F, not once did I say that it was right or wrong for kids to wear makeup or whether I approve or disapprove of kids wearing revealing clothes. My point is that it's a knee jerk reaction to assume that ALL kids are growing up too fast because you see/hear about SOME kids dressing and behaving like this.
How exactly should I show my responsibility towards these kids? Should I drag them back home and give their parents a lecture? And where would you draw the line? Should I show my social responsibility by telling their parents off for letting their kids use mobile phones (supposed cancer risk), be overweight (health risk) or teasing others (bullying)? Like it or not, I would never tell a parent how to bring up, dress or feed their child, even if I didn't approve of it.
It's easy to see the extremes out there and be upset and worried by the examples listed in this thread, but that does not mean that it is the norm.
Agreed I went without a TV for about 2 months and listened my CD's and Radio 1 - always swore I would not watch as much TV but reverted to type. While we're at it we should throw out the Internet too.I believe if we got all our TVs and threw them out they'd be much better off (sounds like a new thread).
SLF
I never suggested that you did approve of the things some kids are doing these days.
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I think some of the videos on the likes of MTV and others are just too advanced for kids.
There was another recent thread about how kids are being sexualized, can't remember the name of it.
I think society has let them down, we in spite of our great wealth (none of which I have) have forgotten our most valuable resource, our children.
I believe if we got all our TVs and threw them out they'd be much better off (sounds like a new thread).
SLF
Agreed I went without a TV for about 2 months and listened my CD's and Radio 1 - always swore I would not watch as much TV but reverted to type. While we're at it we should throw out the Internet too.
Can you not just restrict what your kids watch?
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