Brigid,
You're on site and you're thinking now about something that is better dealt with at the detail design stage - pre-tender stage.
For what its worth, I prefer -
215mm solid concrete blockwork supporting -
circa 200mm composite steel and cast concrete flooring
or
200mm PC units with 75mm loading screed.
You could drop a hammer on the floor above and probably wouldn't hear it if all the (tight-fitting) doors were closed in the house.
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If you want to build in timber that's a whole other technology, but you start with oversizing joists and keeping your spans down to 4.0-4.5M and putting in twice as many cross braces as usual to stiffen the floor.
Then you could install wire netting and fill the spaces between the joists with Rockwool.
Then you could lay absorbent strips along the tops of the joists and install a floating floor of 25mm boards or you some something similar to what you're suggesting.
Unless you're exposing floorboards you could consider an absorbent layer on top of the floorboards to deal with impact noise (hammers, stilletto heels, toys thrown out of prams, etc.)
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Alternatively you may find a house which is well soundproofed using different methods and employ their technology their details.
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The thing is, you have to balance all the regulations, not deal with them piecemeal.
Recessed downlighters and MVHR systems can both contribute to or cause risk in an emergency.
The ducting for MVHR also seems to transmit sound.
Both are relevant to what you are considering.
The whole current movement towards air-tight living seems to be a hugely retrograde step but its "out there".
Here is a link you may want to take a look at although I haven't read all of it myself.
http://comment.veetech.org.uk/index.htm
None of the issues raised therein come as a surprise to me, but its one of the first places I've seen them all grouped together in this manner.
I'm currently undertaking research into this and discussing same with a colleague and a building control officer I know and its raising more concerns than allaying them.
ONQ.
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