Hi all
Some great comments and suggestions here for me to follow up, I think the HSA is a great one. I have no problem with him knowing its me, I have already attempted to discuss on a one to one basis but he wont engage. I ignored the issue for years as he had a young family of 6 and was wotking hard to provide for them etc. However the marraige is over, divorce gone through, he no longer lives in the house, nor does any of the family, they are all independant adults now. The rooms are rented out. At this stage I just want to not be looking at a builders yard I have no problem being transparent thats its me making thr complaint as he would assume it was me any way.