Kanlip69 - I am sorry to hear about your loss. Regardless of the solutions you come to, to give yourself some, tell the solicitor (or any other creditors) you'll sort them our, but will get back to them after Christmas.
My view is that the fees look a little high and may not yet be negotiated, but I think the problem still remains: there will be fees of some sort to pay.
The two obvious ones I can think of are:
1) sell the car;
2) rent a room or two in the house and pay the fees in instalments.