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Let's be honest though, any man (and I am a man!) who doesn't buy the girlfriend an Engagement Ring when he proposes, puts herself in an awkward position when she announces her news to family & friends.

Also, he would be classed as a Cheap Skate!

Am I wrong? There is a lot of pressure on the lads.

All those that disagree with Engagement Rings, are you already married?

No disrespect intended.

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Holy Well said:

Let's be honest though, any man (and I am a man!) who doesn't buy the girlfriend an Engagement Ring when he proposes, puts herself in an awkward position when she announces her news to family & friends.

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People really should worry less about what people think of their actions and do what suits them and fits in with their own beliefs, aspirations and (ideally) budgets. This whole idea of there being certain etiquettes and conventions to which we must all adhere is quite anachronistic in my opinion. The idea of grown adults having to check that their actions fit in with such supposed norms is completely ridiculous to me. As it happens I did give my wife an engagement ring before we married but cost and what others might think were not issues for us. Neither was what people thought of us having a small (immediate family only) non religious civil wedding ceremony/celebration even though we knew that some people (e.g. my mother) would prefer something different.

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Folks - Please keep this thread on topic. If you want a debate on the pros & cons of wedding rings or wedding costs, take it over to Letting Off Steam

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Well, the question was asked: "how much should I spend?"

It's difficult to give an opinion of "spend nothing" without justifying it in some way...

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Hi,

is it acceptable for girls to pay for (or at least chip in for) their own engagement ring?

For example, I´ve studied gemology and know exactly what kind of engagement ring I would like. However, I know that it would be very expensive, and since I dont think it is fair that a fiance should have to sub my expensive tastes, I´d much prefer to pay for most of it myself.

The way I see it, I´m going to be looking at this ring every day for the rest of my life, so I want to adore it. I´d much rather spend money on an engagement ring than a new car for example.

Is this unusual? My sister feels the same as me, but some of my friends are horrified when I say this!

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ciao ragazza,

I paid for half my engagement ring. I think its up to the individual couple in the end. I have friends who are horrified at the thought that I paid for half my engagement ring but yet they bought their partner an expensive gift instead. I wanted an engagement ring, there are many people on this board who think its a ridiculous expense (and they are right) but it was what I wanted (like you Id no interest in spending money on a car etc). That said I did feel my better half should not be paying out of his pocket from his hard earned money to satisfy my desire so we agreed (him somewhat reluctantly) that I pay half. Now that we are married we share our finances anyway so it works out the same. Paying half does not take away from the gesture and the meaning of the ring.

Good luck!
casiopea

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I agree with Cassiopea and Ragazza - - I think it's okay to help pay for the ring, as long as your fiance isn't offended. My boyfriend won't have his green card until after we're married so he's broker than broke right now, but we love each other very much and want to get married.

I'm lucky enough to be very secure financially, so it's really not an issue to help pay. A year or two from now, it's going to be the other way around anyway because we want children soon.

Oddly, I've gone back and forth between, "I don't need or want an engagement ring to prove our love" and "I'd love a really, really nice ring." In the end, I think it would be kind of nice to have a ring that I really like, because I don't plan on ever taking it off or changing it.

My sister seems to think it's fine also. I'm hesitant to share this with my friends though. Maybe I'm worried that they too will be horrified or that they might judge him or me. Also, I don't want to make my boyfriend feel badly and it's really no one's business but ours. Well, that's my two cents!

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is a good looking website, but when i explored it a bit more they basically want your PRSI number and what you had for breakfast before they will let you into the secrets of the diamond world.

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I bought the ring through www.diamond.com

Had it delivered to my sister (who lives in NYC). Had a trip planned to NYC
with herself over Paddy's weekend (went over under that pretence to disguise the real motive!!).

Got a top notch ring for 40% cheaper than Appleby's etc.

So if you know someone who lives in the US, the organise a trip over and propose there.

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If you're planning trip away co-ordinate it with a trip to South Africa, buy your diamond and get the ring made whe you come home, paid for our holiday...

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If the Diamond moves in the ring, where can I get it reset? Most jewellery shops or only a few specialised ones?