We had children when we wanted them, we never have had a lot of money, a flash car or a big house. My wife stayed at home with the children (her and my preference) and the two children we now have are raised as our children and not the childminders. This is not to say our children never went to nursery & playgroup as these are important social activities for both children and mother alike. If we had had childminding paid for it would not matter as we would have still done the same thing. But for those of you who choose (and I will accept that there are those with NO choice) to work stop griping about the costs. If your house in Dublin costs too much - move. We did, we left London for Milton Keynes. If the repayments on the BMW are too high then get a Ford. This is about making informed choices - if you are going to have children you know it's expensive. Two will cost more than one. The childrens allowance and tax allowances for children meant we kept our heads up - only just but we did it by budgeting and using friends and occasionally doing a private job. Be inventive - before we had our 2nd child the 3rd bedroom was an office - we claimed back tax on my PAYE on a business that lost money for two years. It was not illegal as I did about 4 or 5 private jobs a year I paid tax on and the added benefit was that it stopped the "I know you can fix computers" mob getting freebies.