I fell out with a person 10 years ago. Since then she has refused to leave me alone. It's not physical from her. It's all emotional and psychological abuse and control. She hates me and she doesn't want to be friends with me but she won't leave me alone. She just wants to punish me and control me and make me pay. But it's 10 years living under the sentence of her mental health.
I don't respond to her. I blocked her and changed my number many times. Her current route is fake profiles and I block them all the time when I get more.
However she's often so desperate she reaches out to others in my family, friends and my employer. Her goal is not to make amends but to shame me and punish me.
What she's doing is harassment.
I went to the gardai. The first time they said they would phone her and that love only just fuelled her rage and she spent a whole entire weekend blowing up my phone.
The second time the officer said - it's a civil matter.
I explored the civil route but there was nothing open to me to stop this. If we were in an intimate relationship there was a restraining order but we were not in an intimate relationship. The only thing open to me was an injunction and I was quoted thousands for that and I just don't have the means for that.
I got more help and advice from a solicitor who referred me back to the gardai.
The law was updated last year to include harassment and stalking as standalone offences. The new law makes it easier to apply to the civil courts for a restraining order and you don't need to be in an intimate relationship. However the law has not been enacted yet which means it's still not in operation.
This person is still continuing.
I got in touch with the justice minister last year and she was ok-ish in helping me. Her email response was very generic and just sent me back to the gardai.
My appetite for the gardi now is very low to be honest.
I have another issue with the gardai. If I was to go back they said that they would have to confisicate my phone and laptop for evidence and this is stomach churning to me because I am not the one doing wrong and look at what I need to do to stop this.
This person still continues to this day.
How can I get this to stop? She will not leave me alone and she is a disturbed and dangerous individual. If you saw the sick stuff that she writes about.
I was considering contacting Luke Ming Flanagan. I don't know if that would work. So that he could raise the issue in Europe. If I lived in any other country the law would be appropriate to stop harassment but just not Ireland and I think maybe Europe should put pressure on Ireland to introduce appropriate laws to stop harassment.
10 years of harassment and my name being pulled through crap because someone else cants cope with their feelings and ego.
Other people would have killed themselves for less.
I don't respond to her. I blocked her and changed my number many times. Her current route is fake profiles and I block them all the time when I get more.
However she's often so desperate she reaches out to others in my family, friends and my employer. Her goal is not to make amends but to shame me and punish me.
What she's doing is harassment.
I went to the gardai. The first time they said they would phone her and that love only just fuelled her rage and she spent a whole entire weekend blowing up my phone.
The second time the officer said - it's a civil matter.
I explored the civil route but there was nothing open to me to stop this. If we were in an intimate relationship there was a restraining order but we were not in an intimate relationship. The only thing open to me was an injunction and I was quoted thousands for that and I just don't have the means for that.
I got more help and advice from a solicitor who referred me back to the gardai.
The law was updated last year to include harassment and stalking as standalone offences. The new law makes it easier to apply to the civil courts for a restraining order and you don't need to be in an intimate relationship. However the law has not been enacted yet which means it's still not in operation.
This person is still continuing.
I got in touch with the justice minister last year and she was ok-ish in helping me. Her email response was very generic and just sent me back to the gardai.
My appetite for the gardi now is very low to be honest.
I have another issue with the gardai. If I was to go back they said that they would have to confisicate my phone and laptop for evidence and this is stomach churning to me because I am not the one doing wrong and look at what I need to do to stop this.
This person still continues to this day.
How can I get this to stop? She will not leave me alone and she is a disturbed and dangerous individual. If you saw the sick stuff that she writes about.
I was considering contacting Luke Ming Flanagan. I don't know if that would work. So that he could raise the issue in Europe. If I lived in any other country the law would be appropriate to stop harassment but just not Ireland and I think maybe Europe should put pressure on Ireland to introduce appropriate laws to stop harassment.
10 years of harassment and my name being pulled through crap because someone else cants cope with their feelings and ego.
Other people would have killed themselves for less.