Got a letter yesterday from Halifax about an old credit card account I used to have- they overcharged interest apparently and wanted us to contact them to pay it back to us. The account was in our joint names- in fact I was the one who applied for it originally, and the one who subsequently closed it as I deal with all paperwork and finances in our house. But somehow the letter is made out to my husband in his sole name ( of course once opened it was handed to me immediately for me to deal with) and when I rang up they wouldn't talk to me- despite the fact that it was a joint account- insisted they would only talk to my husband as I was 'the second named account holder'. Give me patience.
If a woman gives her name as Mrs. John Smith then that is how I would address her - all the time, in all social situations.
What I really hate is when you see widows refered to as relics of John Smith! To me a relic is a piece of property belonging to someone.. What kind of family would refer to their mother like that?
I never suggested a letter of complaint. What I suggested was.... Mathpac, do you really think a letter of complaint would work, it would go into the pile called 'to do in 2 years time' when the new girl or boy takes over and consequently gets dumped in the annual clean out.
Letters to the Complaints Department IME go in the circular file while letters to the Political Correctness / Renewable Energy / Hair Shirt / Tree Hugging sections get immediate action. (I believe Mr. Gormless's offficials issued a directive while we were drowing in rain-water, snow and ice... write to the organisations / individuals ... and inform them how you wish to have written communications destined for you and your husband styled, ...
as the "head of the household" was to be the first name.
What does this mean?? Head of the household - does it mean the person in charge, the person who owns the household including spouse and children? It always annoys me. My household has no head - or a joint head - but not just one head.
What does this mean?? Head of the household - does it mean the person in charge, the person who owns the household including spouse and children? It always annoys me. My household has no head - or a joint head - but not just one head.
It's early days, give her a year or two.My sister got married last year and before it, I mentioned that it was not law to take husbands name, just custom.
She was highly offended, wanted it to be seen as a symbol of their unity etc and wouldn't speak to me for 6 weeks.
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I have the opposite problem - sometimes I get post addressed to me as "Mr My wifes maiden name" as my wife uses her maiden name for some things. There seems to be a total inability of officialdom to cope with 2 married people using different surnames.
Humour aside, your name is a big part of your identity.. . . you don't know till it happens to you how you will react.
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