decembersal
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Very defensive tone there jaybird. The mother can express the milk in advance, or they can use formula milk for night feeds, or the father can wind/burp the baby after the feed. If he's working at night that's one thing, the rest is just a cop-out.Theres many a man can't grow breasts overnight, you know. Apart from that, the father could be working shifts, or have a job that necessitates a good nights sleep. But none of that is anyones business, the OP was looking for ways to help her friend, not marriage guidance by remote.
OP, food and a few hours sleep are perfect ideas! As the mother of a baby who rarely sleeps even at 1 year old, I would have loved someone to turn up with a lasagne and send me to bed for even one hour. Actually someone making me a cup of tea would have been nice, the amount of people who arrive to goo at the baby and expect tea and biscuits is crazy.
So he is doing his bit… good.To be fair I am just trying to be a good friend by bringing around a meal so to reduce the workload a bit.
I am sure both parents are actively participating in the rearing of their baby.
Fair enough, what would I know; I only have three kidsI have to agree with Jaybird. When you are breastfeeding a young baby, expressing is not recommended (they can get confused between bottle and breast) and using formula can affect milk supply. So if breastfeeding is the choice that she has made, the mother is the only one who can feed the baby at night. But it can be really exhausting.
Definately the best offer would be for some uninterrupted sleep in the knowledge that someone else is looking after baby. If you bring dinner too, that would be a bonus.
For tips on getting the baby to sleep, I would recommend 'The Baby Whisperer,how to calm, connect and communicate with your Baby', it worked for me
When you are breastfeeding a young baby, expressing is not recommended (they can get confused between bottle and breast) and using formula can affect milk supply. So if breastfeeding is the choice that she has made, the mother is the only one who can feed the baby at night. But it can be really exhausting.
When did la Leche become fair game? I thought it was a fairly harmless movement to support young mothers. Apparently they are the boob police...........
Or Vanilla could give some results from her well informed, one woman study ?
And I wonder why I might be defensive? What are earth are you talking about? You clearly know nothing about the realities of breastfeeding, but you seem to think youself more knowledgeable than an entire world wide non-profit organisation endorsed by the W.H.O and Unicef? I'd like to know where you got the above facts from, because to me they sound like utter rubbish.
If anyone is interested in the actual facts, the La Leche league site can point you towards decades of both scientific and anthropological studies on breastfeeding. Or Vanilla could give some results from her well informed, one woman study ?
Why is that those of us who support breastfeeding are called strident, breastapo, and BF nazis? We are the vast minority, and yet are called bullies, for advocating breastfeeding. In the UK and Ireland, only 7% of babies are being breastfed at 4 months. I don't understand why anyone (other than Nestle et al) would want that figure not to be brought up?
All most of us want is for accurate advice and support given to women to feed their babies, whatever way they choose. And that is sadly lacking.
Believe it or not La Leche are the facist dictators of breastfeeding.
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