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Alright guys, thanks for the advice so far.
I'll address some of the points and questions.
As rainy has said, the child should not and absolutely will not be used as a pawn in any of this, we wont tell him about any of the behaviour of his father as he doesnt need to know. How can you tell a child his father is an idiot and not expect him to take it in Oh so many wrong ways? The child will not be involved. he does love his dad and the time(1 day a week) he spends with him. Although most of that is(was) spent in front of the PS2 in the first place, but thats a whole other discussion.
It is always something with this guy so how to deal with the overall problem. We could say no to him as Rainy said, calmly and repetitively but he has in the past adopted tactics (for example) like delaying regular payments or saying hed look after the boy on a certain night and then not turning up when my sister was all set to go out causing extreme angst.
I cant see the sitdown method, which my parents always used on us as kids, working with this guy as the immaturity levels go beyond belief, this situation being an example. we will look at this though as an option.
Yes she had a a months deposit from this guy and a reference, but the deposit and months rent was eaten up as hed left owing a months rent. Big lessons learned there.
As to the gards, I dont want to turn this into a garda bashing post so please dont jump on this but I get a distinct impression the gards dont care
Firstly, the tenant was of eastern european origin. As there is another eastern european in the house and he is the perfect tenant she perhaps let her guide down slightly and probably trusted him more then she should. Yes, she rang the job reference at the time and everything was kosher. when she rang the job after the theft, she found out hed left the job. She went to the gards, they listened to the story but said there was little they could do as even if they found him , which it would be difficult to do, hed have probably sold the PS2 by then.
I dont understand this, surely theres something they can do, if the guys got a work permit then they should be able to track where he is, no? Complete apathy from them, or am I being over-expectant about what the garda can do? (and yes I do believe cheif wiggum could catch him). As I said though, please dont hijack this post and turn into garda bashing.
Yes there were about 10 games involved and Ive been sourcing these through buyandsell, boards.ie etc so tks for that but we want to see if a different resolution can happen first.