Tell her not to worry. If she chooses to deal with all of this herself, she will not be alone. The folks in the Probate Office are very, very helpful. They are trained to deal with people who have suffered a bereavement, who are confused, and do not have a clue what to do. If she pays them a visit, or gives them a ring, odds are she will feel much better and a lot more optimistic about things. They will explain to her exactly what she needs to do. This is not something that she should feel pessimistic about being able to handle.