AriesWoman
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I'm having a disagreement with my mum's sister about my mum. Both my parents are in a nursing home and I'm an only child. I assumed that I have next of kin for both of them as neither of them are able to make decisions for the other. Mum is suffering dementia due to several mini strokes and one full stroke. Dad isn't able to make decisions as he had a anuerysm and isn't fully aware of what's going on around him. From what I can see on the internet the order of priority for next of kin is spouse, child(ren), parents and then siblings so I would be next in line. However my aunt is adamant that she is next of kin for my mum. Which of us is right?
My concern is that I can see this escalating into a major row if decisions had to be made about mum eg who gives consent to an operation or funeral arrangements (I always thought these decisions were made by a spouse and children but my aunt says no). I would like to get this sorted as I don't want to be fighting with my aunt when major decisions have to be made.
Has any else had a similar problem with an aunt or uncle and how did they deal with them? I'm not saying I would leave my aunt out of decisions altogether but if we couldn't agree I think final decisions would be down to me. By the way I'm not having any such problems with my dad's siblings.
I'm having a disagreement with my mum's sister about my mum. Both my parents are in a nursing home and I'm an only child. I assumed that I have next of kin for both of them as neither of them are able to make decisions for the other. Mum is suffering dementia due to several mini strokes and one full stroke. Dad isn't able to make decisions as he had a anuerysm and isn't fully aware of what's going on around him. From what I can see on the internet the order of priority for next of kin is spouse, child(ren), parents and then siblings so I would be next in line. However my aunt is adamant that she is next of kin for my mum. Which of us is right?
My concern is that I can see this escalating into a major row if decisions had to be made about mum eg who gives consent to an operation or funeral arrangements (I always thought these decisions were made by a spouse and children but my aunt says no). I would like to get this sorted as I don't want to be fighting with my aunt when major decisions have to be made.
Has any else had a similar problem with an aunt or uncle and how did they deal with them? I'm not saying I would leave my aunt out of decisions altogether but if we couldn't agree I think final decisions would be down to me. By the way I'm not having any such problems with my dad's siblings.