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It's cold, clinical and selfish IMO.
Life doesn't always turn out the way we want it to.... My advise to Jane, be at peace with what you have....
I think Liaconn's post was a little unfair. It may not be the ideal situation but it sounds as though Jane is trying to think through the different scenarios that may occur. I'm not sure that makes her calculating...in my book it's being sensible. People become pregnant in all sorts of different situations...one night stands, sperm donors, conventional methods....women in ALL of those circumstances can and are good mothers. How or why you became pregnant doesn't necessarily reflect on your ability to be a good and loving mum to your child.
The problem from the beginning is the "remain friends bit'. All well and good until they both get new partners and move on with their lives.
But (and its a big but) what if Jane actually doesnt like or approve of Bobs new partner or vice versa. In that situation Jane may not want the child to be exposed to this person or Bob may not want this new man he doesnt like raising his child.
Its a minefield that cannot be planned around.
If only I could be less judgementalI am not in any way judging the couple,
Jane is self-centred; Bob is an idiot.
I don't think I have ever agreed with anything michaelm has ever posted before now - first time for everything
That's my point aswell truthseeker, and the situation happens quite frequently. No amount of planning or drawing up agreements before the event will solve any problems that may arise.
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