Gerry Canning
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pippylongsocks.I know you're going to think I'm a big ejjit but I'm lost trying to find my way around thisbut thanks very much for your advice
It's not what you said ..it's how you said it ...and you are well aware what you were saying ....I believe if you have nothing nice / helpful to say then say nothing at all. You know nothing about me or my circumstances and why I'm now in this situation .
Peteb was correct to point out to us that there are other debts, and I saw nothing wrong with the tone, everyone wants to help, but all facts are important and you cannot just expect nice comments on a public forum like this. In any case his comments were not unkind but helpful to us understanding your situation.It's not what you said ..it's how you said it ...and you are well aware what you were saying ....I believe if you have nothing nice / helpful to say then say nothing at all. You know nothing about me or my circumstances and why I'm now in this situation .
I didn't delete it ...so what are you getting at ?? I'm new to this forum ....and I know for sure I didn't delete it ....Don't draw assumptions from my text. Tone can't be implied. Nor can it be assumed. Your situation isn't as straight-forward as the post assumes. you've deleted your post on the visa debt. So I'm not the one leading anyone down anywhere.
I did mention I was clearing off other money in my question ...the visa was issue was just something I thought of later ....I didn't delete the visa question ....in fact I was looking for it myself ...I'm new to all this and no expert with computers /forums .Peteb was correct to point out to us that there are other debts, and I saw nothing wrong with the tone, everyone wants to help, but all facts are important and you cannot just expect nice comments on a public forum like this. In any case his comments were not unkind but helpful to us understanding your situation.
Can you try and list all your debts, repayments, your income and any arrangements.
I find it odd you deleted the credit card debt post, you probably need help on that too. Nobody knows you but the more info you give the better - for you.
Of course he would pay it but I just haven't mentioned it to him ....I'm more concentrated on the visa bill ...if I can get the big one sorted out then I can pay the €30 myself .... I have never refused to pay the €30 but they wont agree to let me pay it monthly ....with them it's all or nothing ....I was with them years and never missed a payment... What they're really saying is ...you pay it our way or we send in the heavies .If your son in law is offering to help with your €9000 credit card debt, surely he would be also willing to help with the €30 the TV company are chasing you for - particularly if you have debt collectors calling you?
I didn't delete it ...so what are you getting at ?? I'm new to this forum ....and I know for sure I didn't delete it ....
I did mention I was clearing off other money in my question ...the visa was issue was just something I thought of later ....I didn't delete the visa question ....in fact I was looking for it myself ...I'm new to all this and no expert with computers /forums .
Where is the thread on this, since AAM has changed I cannot figure it out properlyIf your son in law is offering to help with your €9000 credit card debt, surely he would be also willing to help with the €30 the TV company are chasing you for - particularly if you have debt collectors calling you?
I believe you understand clearly where I'm coming from , I have always paid my bills never missed any in my life and never found myself in this situation before, I even gave up my car so I could pay off the visa but I'm still hanging in thereEven cheap "heavies" will cost more than €30 to pursue you over any term so it is neither cost-effective or useful to keep up a determined pursuit of you over this. You have stated what you can afford. I assume you have put that to them in writing? Even if they refuse to countenance it as a solution they are unlikely to say no when you pay.
I think I can understand why you perhaps don't want to bring it up with your son-in-law. Feeling already beholden to family bringing a small additional amount forward that you know given time you can manage on your own may seem like a defeat, especially since it is so small. The question you need to ask yourself is what the reason is for dealing with this yourself. Managing that debt down yourself on your own will provide a victory and a confidence boost going forward. If that is your aim and you see it as worth it then you need to be mentally prepared to stick to your guns and deal with what they send. Chances are they will bluster and posture but will do very little over it as it will simply cost too much to do more. It will take 15 months to clear the debt but you will clear it and perhaps, with care and chance you might clear it sooner. Good luck
, I even gave up my car so I could pay off the visa.
I did mention I was clearing off other money in my question ...the visa was issue was just something I thought of later ....I didn't delete the visa question ....in fact I was looking for it myself ...I'm new to all this and no expert with computers /forums .
Thank you for your good advice and understanding ....I thinks Mabs is the road I need to take ....I made an appointment to talk to them ...they will see me Monday week .What probably happened is you posted that on a separate thread and it was deleted by the moderators. Don't worry about that now.
What's really agitating you is the 30 Euro debt. Honestly do not see a company sending debt collectors for this. They have probably sent you a nasty letter with threats in it. Those letters are standard, they send the same one to everybody who owes them money. Eventually when they get nothing from you they will realise it's a debt that is not pursuing but for now 'the computer' is generating them automatically to everybody who owes money.
Advice
Look at the letter again and figure out it is indeed a standard 'threat' letter
You offered to pay them what you could, they have refused, now you just ignore them
Go to Mabs, they are free, they have heard it all before, they are there to help you.
Opinion
Apparently you are a pensioner, on a state pension. You've sold your car, you're stressed and you are doing your utmost to pay your debts. You're embarresed you've had to ask your SIL for help. It would seem to me that you are not able to service your debts and that they should be written off by the credit card company and the TV company. So kind and all as your SIL is, he probably should not offer them anything. But go to Mabs, or ask your SIL to go with you to Mabs and they will tell you what to do, as far as I know they will even write to the companies for you and if you are able to pay something Mabs will also arrange that too, and it will stop you recieving any more threatining letters.
But noticed they had my last name spelled wrong by 1 letter
Registered with who? Registered for what?I am not registered in Ireland (only at the PPS office with a different address)
That statement is immaterial (and I am not sure what you mean in this context by "subscription" - subscription to what?). You don't have to have an Irish bank account. Money can be paid from accounts in other countries.I don't have a Irish bank account or subscription
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