dating advice - men's perspective

To be honest, I think I'd get my locks changed if this guy had my keys!!! Sorry!!!
 
elainem,

I am a man, and if I was him, I'd run a mile from you, because you're hard work. You make too much of the situation, and guys don't like that. Just tell the truth and say you want to go out with the guy or you don't.
 
Slash said:
elainem,

I am a man, and if I was him, I'd run a mile from you, because you're hard work. You make too much of the situation, and guys don't like that. Just tell the truth and say you want to go out with the guy or you don't.
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Hard Work! A guy takes liberties and puts the maulers on someone he barely knows and you call the girl hard work. Thats what gets blokes a bad name.
 
I think he sounds like a keeper and you just let the love of your life slip through your fingers.

Seriously though, I thought the stories of tradesmen trying it on with the women that they are doing work for was an urban legend or a bad storyline from a porn movie!
 
Sunny said:
Seriously though, I thought the stories of tradesmen trying it on with the women that they are doing work for was an urban legend or a bad storyline from a porn movie!
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Are you telling me that voluptuous women generally don't answer the door in a see through nightdress, sucking their fingers, asking the carpet guy if he needs to lay anything?

I'm sticking with the day job then
 
Ha Ha! Had two absolutely gorgeous Eastern European guys deliver my couch last year. Had to restrain myself when they asked "where do you want it"
 
Caveat said:
Are you telling me that voluptuous women generally don't answer the door in a see through nightdress, sucking their fingers, asking the carpet guy if he needs to lay anything?

I'm sticking with the day job then
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I know. I was very disappointed as well. Apparently, when they ask if there is some other way they can pay, they simply mean 'do you accept credit cards'. And when take an interest in the size of your drill, it actually is because they are into DIY.
 
Hi! everyone, thaks for all your replies. Glad I definiely didn't go for this one. Just heard that he has an ex, but still spends a part of each day in the ex's house. Apparently, they don't have any sex life, so he hits on other women for this. Can't believe this stuff goes on. Definitely had too much of a convent education or I caught in a complete time warp!! Thanks again for all the replies.
 
On the positive side you could consider the fact that he found you attractive. I'm surprised that any woman in her forties who (if she has an au pair) more than likely has a kid or two would need advice on this kind of situation. Was this a wind up? As for relationships, I'm concerned also that you would start thinking straight away about a relationship, surely you'd get to know him first, suss him out. In banking terms you might perform a stress test to see how he measured up and in aircraft terms you might perform the frozen turkey test.
 
No I dont think Elaine was winding us up, just a bit out of practice - like myself.

I know how you feel Elaine - I have had two very long term relationships (one 13 years) and then straight away into another 8 year one so I would be a bit like Elaine in that I am hopeless at reading men.

Maybe I am just destined to be single. Elaine - we will start a singles club!
 
Elainem, I'm a bit confused here. You stated that you don't trust your au pair because she's a thief. I bet she's an awful liar as well. How do you know she didn't tell this man a pack of lies about you? She probably told him that you were a bunny boiler or some such? Completely scaring him away.

Why don't you find out everything about this man? Surely you must know someone that knows some friends of his etc? If he is a womaniser, he'll have a reputation and that will be becoming known to you.
 
The Man put the maulers on Elaine and then refused to return her text. She did not need the Au Pair to tell her that this is not the done thing.
 
Fair enough. At the end of the day it's tough to make a judgement call on this. I would have to be there to see what went on.
 

The best thing to do when it comes to look for a partner is not rush head long in thinking this is the one for me. Become friends first, get to know them real well. Don't expect perfection and don;t try and be perfect yourself. You'll have you good days and bad days.

Aslo there is no such thing as Mr Right, just like there is no such thing as Ms Right either
 

MandaC I think you are being courted!
 
UptheDeise said:
Aslo there is no such thing as Mr Right, just like there is no such thing as Ms Right either
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I don't know. The woman I married is everything I could ever have hoped for in a life partner. Although she is not perfect, (her decision to marry me confirms same) she most definitely is Mrs Right. does that make me Mr Right by default?
 
DavyJones said:
I don't know. The woman I married is everything I could ever have hoped for in a life partner. Although she is not perfect, (her decision to marry me confirms same) she most definitely is Mrs Right. does that make me Mr Right by default?
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Well nobody is perfect. You seem to be very happy. That's what's important.
 

Ha Ha....dont think I could be accused of rushing into anything....after 13 years ...
What do you mean no such thing as Mr. Right, maybe thats where I have been going wrong...I will have to settle for Mr. Right Now!
 
MandaC said:
Ha Ha....dont think I could be accused of rushing into anything....after 13 years ...
What do you mean no such thing as Mr. Right, maybe thats where I have been going wrong...I will have to settle for Mr. Right Now!
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Woops I must of misread your post.

Trust me, Mr Right doesn't exist. I have a friend of mine who is Mr Right to his wife. She treats him like dirt. The more he does for her the more demands she makes. The man is after turning into a complete idiot.

If you want to meet someone, get out there. Joins clubs, do charity work, take up a hobby. The more you do, the more people you'll meet and the bigger circle of friends you'll create. I think a lot of people meet their partners through their friends.

When you do find a partner concentrate on the good points, the strenghts so too speak and try and minimise the faults.

Also talk talk talk. If something is bothering you because he has annoyed you he mightn't realise it, so tell him in a polite way. Don't bottle it up.

I hope I don't come accross as patronising.

Best of luck.
 
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